Holiday contact

Hi the way they are working this is as follows - and apologies if it looks complicated....

For example, his two week block in the summer starts on his weekend, so he will collect her on the Friday, then he has two weeks, but as his holiday ends on his weekend as well he will keep her until Sunday, so he has the two weeks plus his weekends at the start and the end. Mums two week block is on the end of his so she will have her from the Sunday evening, but then the end weekend of her two weeks is my partners weekend, so he will collect his daughter on the Friday as normal. It means actually that Mum gets a little less than two weeks because of the weekend at the end of her two week block.

Then on half term, for example this one as shes with us this week - he collected her on Friday as it was his weekend, and is returning her this Friday.

On the next half term - which she will spend with mum he will either have her for the first weekend or the last weekend of that week depending which one is his.

On the following half term which will be one she spends with him if its his weekend at the start then he will have her from friday to the following Friday, but if its not his weekend at the start then he will collect her on Monday morning and return her on Sunday night.

By classing the week as the Monday to Friday it made it easier for them, they were helped with this at the court. It does appear to favour him slightly on the summer holidays but then that seems fair to everyone, as he only gets alternate weekends during term time.

To be honest it depends on what works for you, what your ex partner is asking for and whether you can agree or not. My partner agreed all of this via the exes solicitor and it was fairly painless once the order was in place.

I hope that helps?

Thanks for this, its so much more clear now.

Is there a reason you wouldn''t want their father to spend more time with the children in holidays? What''s the motivation for you to argue against the 30 days and normal contact?

I had a similar issue with my previous contact order and now my order stated exactly when the children are with each parent through all of the holidays thoughout the year. The holiday contact rotates around the current contact order on mine, which was done intentionally so that there was no further issues. It than state the normal contact order will commence on such a date to eliminate any confusions.

To date, I''ve made no issues with contact however, things have been better since the court order has been in place. And to keep things sweet and simple, I prefer to stick to it. It wasn''t something I instigated, but its brought stability to my situation. The bottom line is, we all understand the complexities linked to divorce and separation here and thats why we seek each others support rather than trying to judge each others actions. And I''m extremely grateful to those people on this website who have provided me with this support.

If you have a disagreement on dates and it cannot be resolved it would be best to go back to court for a clearer contact order to be issued.
In the meantime if you have a two week foreign holiday booked with the kids and he is trying to ruin it with the pedantic but I''m meant to have them this week.I''d personally think bollox matey you can go feck yourself and you''ll have to get over it you annoying deliberately obstructive rse. Even if you are correct I''ll make up the time somewhere else because this holiday is for the kids,and I''d go anyway and he would have to live with the dissapointment and do all his ranting AFTER the event.I wouldn''t tell him that though I''d just do it.
I cannot abide pedantry for the sake of point scoring.
All the best
Pete xx

Thanks, your so funny!! I''m leaving all the court move on him. Thats all he ever threatens me by and to a certain extent, I''m absolutely terrified about court. I''ve got residence through such a messy hearing where he was criticised like no tomorrow but nothing mentioned against me mainly because that wasn''t the route I wanted to take. And still he throws that at me every time things dont go his way. At times, I get so tired stressing about this. And then I start counting the number of years left for my child to become 16!! Am I the only person who feels like this or are there others like me?