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20 Jun 12 #337898 by MrsMathsisfun
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My partner has a private arrangement with his ex but we has similar issues re the holidays.

My partner originally had 50/50 shared care on a very weird and unsettling rota, he requested that the rota was changed to a more structured system that would allow his children more continuity. The rota meant the children didnt know from one week to the next what time they would be spending with which parent but his ex wasnt having any of it.

In the best interest of his children my partner reluctantly agreed to alternate weekends and one night during the week, the ex wanted. This resulted in a split of time as 70/30 in her favour.

She was very happy with that until she realised he meant he would also only be responsible for the children a third of the time during the holidays. Suddenly she wanted 70/30 shared care during term time and 50/50 holidays, because ''''it would cost her money to provide additional childcare''''

My partner would be more than happy to have the children for his 4 weeks a year holiday that his company allows and pay for childcare if he had the children on a 50/50 bases but why should he pay to cover holidays to suit his ex choices.

Finally it was agreed that during term time the alternate weekend system would run and during the holidays my partner would provide 22 days ''''holiday cover'''' and 2 inset days. With the alternate weekends happening if it doesnt clash with the other parents holiday arrangements.

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