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25 Jun 12 #338856 by Anjh77
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My son has been away for the weekend. It should have been his weekend with his dad but he really enjoys his camp weekends. I have offered for dad to have him next weekend instead. I am still waiting for him to tell me whether he wants him or not, I asked him over a week ago.
My son returned home last night having thoroughly enjoyed his weekend. He waited for his dad to ring him and got so disappointed cause he didn''t. I asked him if he wanted to ring him and tell him about his weekend. Bee said no if he was interested he would have rang.
He regularly rings his dad and it always goes to answer phone. His mobile is switched on so dad can ring or text whenever he wants.
Why can''t he see what he is doing to his son?
Sorry for the rant just had to get it off my chest!
Thanks for reading

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25 Jun 12 #338858 by Forseti
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Not sure I understand this. If it should have been the father''s contact weekend why did he not have contact? Did the father fail to turn up or did you decide he should not have contact? Is there an order in place?

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25 Jun 12 #338861 by hawaythelads
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The kid wanted to go to Scout camp for the weekend.
Kids would rather go camping with their mates than be superglued to their parents because they got divorced.
Remember when you was a kid it was more of a laugh hanging around with your mates than your parents.
Mum has offered Dad next weekend as he obviously wouldn''t have spent any time with the kid this weekend.
Why do you think it''s all about court orders all the time?
The op has been entirely reasonable.
All the best
Pete x

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25 Jun 12 #338862 by scaryspice
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I agree .
I thought it was supposed to be what''s best for the children , not whether Dad was supposed to see them .
There has to be flexibility with kids .

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25 Jun 12 #338864 by Anjh77
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Thanks pete
There is no contact order in place I am simply trying to make my son happy.
He wanted to go camping if it was my weekend he would get to go no questions asked so why should he be made to feel that if anything falls on dads weekend he shouldn''t get to go?

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25 Jun 12 #338870 by hattiedaw
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Contact is supposed to be in the best interests of the child/ren so why do we hear court orders being bandied about? Why do we constantly hear of parents fighting for an extra hour or 2, whats the point?
Surely if a child wants to be at cub camp / on a sleepover / at a riding lesson etc then dont mess with their leisure time.
It''s just not fair.

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25 Jun 12 #338874 by jslgb
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Getting back to the original post my stbxh often does that to my daughter. He promises he''ll ring and then doesnt. He doesnt have a great deal of contact as he wont go down the route to formalise it and isnt prepared to travel to 25 miles or so to our home midweek. We did originally agree to a phone contact schedule but that was quickly forgotten by stbxh.

Its definitely frustrating to stand by and watch someone let your child down, especially when its a parent. Like you Anjh, if something interferes with stbxh''s contact i always offer to swap days so he gets his full contact, but i am beginning to begrudge doing this when he cant even follow through on his promised phone calls. Why should i give up my time?

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