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19 Jul 12 #344130 by hawaythelads
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I''d text Daddy back...
"Mummy says Daddy is a grown adult and can take care of his own parenting with his kids.
Mummy says if Daddy wants to know about school dates or swim kit or any other fecking thing at all that he gets his finger out and finds it out himself as Mummy is divorced from him and not being paid to be his personal assistant."
So now you all know that Mummy won''t be answering any more texts because Daddy should be just as capable as Mummy."

The kids won''t be emotionally damaged.You''d do a lot better telling the kids exactly how it is.You''re better off being honest with kids.
All the best
HRH xx.

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19 Jul 12 #344133 by bluefairy
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Oh dear!

You are being controlled by him and so are the kids. You don''t have to inform him about anything to do with school, the school will send letters to him direct if he asks. Then if he says he doesn''t know about something he can take the matter to the school, as for trying to communicate with him - stop completely - if he sends messages via kids - just brush off uninterested, change subject and distract them away from the texts. For example if child receives text - daddy says tell mummy blah blah say ok sweetheart now what shall we have for tea tonight maybe pizza and watch a film. Don''t rise to the bait don''t allow kids to be bothered. Eventually he may pick up the phone and speak like a normal person if he doesn''t the kids will see him for what he is doing in time. By communicating his way it will look like you are just as bad and you are not.
Be happy, smile a lot tell kids you love them and they will be fine.

Blue x

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20 Jul 12 #344410 by Yummy_Mummy
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Hope you have been ok.

I have tried to follow this post and it highlights so many points.

I agree with it all and also understand how hard it is to do especially when you are in the thick of it - I should know!

I would also recommend that you keep a close eye and if something does not look right, you ought to raise it with your solicitor.

We are all here if you need a chat or just want to vent off.

Remember it is all about control and he will do everything and use the children too.

Take Care. X

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