Mediation and Court

DrDaddy wrote:

Ok, but anyone can change their mind, right?

What are you going to use it for - to show that she has changed her mind? And so what outcome will that support?

Just because she agreed to something, then changed her mind, it doesn''t mean that the original agreement was in the best interest of the children. If it was me, I would be focussing on showing that mid-week staying contact was in in the best interest of the children - whether she agrees now, agreed before, neither, or both, is actually incidental. But that''s just my opinion.

DrDaddy wrote:

Ok, but anyone can change their mind, right?

What are you going to use it for - to show that she has changed her mind? And so what outcome will that support?

Just because she agreed to something, then changed her mind, it doesn''t mean that the original agreement was in the best interest of the children. If it was me, I would be focussing on showing that mid-week staying contact was in in the best interest of the children - whether she agrees now, agreed before, neither, or both, is actually incidental. But that''s just my opinion.

Personally that''s exactly what i''m going to use it for. I will almost certainly refer to mediation in showing how flawed my partners arguments and reasons are. Also going to refer to how she always agrees to things and goes back on them, hence the reason why I''m taking her to court. All in all she''s agreed to 8 different contact methods and gone back on them all. I''m hoping that the judge will see this and make it even more likely that it will be put in an order.

I know fully well that my EX partner is going to turn up to court saying sheel try to do this do that, but heard it all before and want to make sure the court is fully aware of the lies she tells.

I think being a LIP you have a little bit more scope aswell surely? as really we''re rookies and don''t have the proffessional training a lawyer etc has.

I tried using what was discussed in mediation at court. My ex told his solicitor that me and the mediator had ganged up against him, and made him agree to things he didn''t want to do.

In the end, it was pointless using anything, as he just said we forced him (contact, maintenance, birthday presents).

Its worth a try, but don''t expect it to work!