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09 Aug 12 #348385 by ffc1991
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CAFCASS just rang me when on train convenient.... Anyways they''ve arranged to ring me back at 1 when I get off the train. She did confirm however that she had spoke to my EX today. Funny that CAfCASs can get hold of her but mediators can''t :@. Anyways back to point what should I be expecting and what''s the big Dos and don''ts.

I know not to mud sling and tbh I dont really have anything bad to say other than the way she has been regarding contact.

If the mediator brings up the claims of my EX saying I was abusive (2 texts where I called her a ***** and that I hated her) which was on the day she told me I would never see my daughter again unless I took her to court. What should I Say to this?

Cheers in advance


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09 Aug 12 #348393 by PetalsInTheWind
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Just be honest. Anything else will backfire

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09 Aug 12 #348396 by zonked
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The best thing to do is find a quite space and just keep yourself in a calm and reflective state of mind. Drink water, it helps. Having a photo of your dtr to hand might help you keep focus during the call.

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09 Aug 12 #348413 by Fiona
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You could just say it was spur of the moment thing and you regret sending the texts and won''t do it again.

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09 Aug 12 #348473 by khan72
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Be honest and true. Admit to everything which is true but also give context. We are all human. Text abuse is at the lower end of the spectrum and a judge is likely going to overlook it when they take the welfare checklist into consideration.
When you speak to CAFCASS just talk about your child. To be honest they have heard everything under the sun. Write what you have to say and email it also. Just in case the CAFCASS officer is busy, they can simply copy paste ur writing into the section 7 report ;)

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