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finaly admitting defeat with my daughtrr

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05 Sep 12 #353931 by grafter
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Sorry dont know how to reply to my last post.
Thanks for replys..
A bit more info
I have been through court process,cafcas etc but did no good at all.in the end I had to reducr my contact from every other wrek to one overnight and 2 4 hours.i had to do this to get my daughter settledas hard as it was I felt itthe right thing to do.but things are no better.i have also had social workrrs involved about the way my ex tells my daughter every detail of grown up things that she should not of heard.
tthis has continurd regardless of my concerns.i have deep concerns about her partner he has a bad reputation..and has usrd facebook to slander me regarsing csa payments.and he and her use every oppertunity to try and wind me up were my daughter is concerned,not giving a monkeys wat effect it has on heras long as they win little games.i dont have facebook,but people I know do.
I love my dsughter very much.but I have tried everything to smooth the waters but to no avail.my exs new ploy is to send messages to my partner from her and my daughte.saying wat a bad dad I am....
So sad that from a loving close happy family it is now the complete oppisite.

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05 Sep 12 #354082 by khan72
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Do yourself a favour. Take snapshots or printouts of all information which denegrates you as a father. Collate this as evidence and use the Parental alienation card. DO NOT PLAY THIS DIRTY GAME AND DO NOT DO TIT FOR TAT - If you do, courts wont bother with you.

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06 Sep 12 #354162 by Singledad1
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I agree strongly on this. Denigrating the other parent and leaving an evidential trail of it (presumably they aim at you finding it) is not being clever in any way. Record it in both electronic format (.pdf) and on paper.

You dont need to stoop to their level and when your daughter is old enough to know the truth she will be thankful you did not. For now, as frustrating and difficult as it is, ENJOY your quality time with your child as most likely the intention of these comments is to wind you up so much that you dont enjoy contact.

The best way to "get back" is to not get wound up, not think about it and be a good dad to your daughter, contrary to whatever she posts. They want to wind you up so you react and they can say what an aggressive person you are. Dont fall into the trap. Think of workarounds, useful suggestions and solutions when negotiating.

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