court update!

I''m confused.
What Judge?the one from two years ago?
You''ve got a hearing coming up?
Anyway its doubtful to be the same judge.

Bottom line is your child is 5.You would have a very good chance of getting a midweek staying contact if you were starting from scratch.The fact this has been the routine for,wait a minute, 2 YEARS,would make it pretty hard for the judge to reverse this.

All of your requests are pretty standard so I would feel confident you will get them.

disneybunny wrote:

Agree with your ex and the judge, sorry. Mid week staying contact would be disruptive.

Why would you make such an unkind reply to a stranger asking for help?

DrDaddy wrote:

disneybunny wrote:

Agree with your ex and the judge, sorry. Mid week staying contact would be disruptive.

Why would you make such an unkind reply to a stranger asking for help?

Especially with an incorrect statement.

All you can do is present child focused reasons for midweek overnights.

With parenting issues there often isn''t any black and white, just parents with different attitudes and opinions doing different things. The same is true with Judges. Some will award shared residence with perhaps overnights midweek and others think living in one home an no disruption during the school week is in the best interests of children.

"42. …. Judge are divided on the issue. Some make shared residence orders more readily than others in order to underline the importance of both parents in the child’s life. Others taken the view that it is better for children to have one home and to live with one parent." -

Wall LJ 2010

www.familylaw.co.uk/system/uploads/attac...h_September_2010.pdf

I guess my view is simple - midweek staying contact has been taking place for 2 years,to remove it when the school confirm things are going well would be the most disruptive thing that could happen.

I take the point that moving it to thursdays would reduce movement between parents, that could be a feasible solution.

Disney clearly is against 2 involved parents as no midweek involvement by default means dad becomes a weekend dad - can you here me all the way back in the 80s disney?

i cant offer any advice on this as I am at the beginning of my process to gain more access to my kids but I just wanted to give you my support and luck.

Keep us posted.

I am in a very similar situation, Could I ask did you ask the school for the report and were they ok in given it to you? As this maybe the next option I have to take? I also agree that it is more disruptive to the child to prevent you from collecting them from school a routine they have had for the last 2 years!!!