Quick Question

If she suggested it in writing and you agreed in writing then I would stick with it this time, particularly if it is better for you. It will show that you are both being flexible and working together over contact.

However if she then uses it as an excuse to hang around during your contact you will need to go back to the original meeting point specified in the Order.

Best wishes,
Sadie

For now you really are much better advised to stick to the order. There is a reason why you have had to go to court and a reason why you have the order you have been given. If you break the terms of the order now you set a precedent and send your ex the message that you will be prepared to break other aspects of the order in the future.

If you can go for your review in December showing that you have kept to the terms of the order you can argue then that you are communicating better and can ask that you be given the flexibility to agree your own terms.

If, however, you attend having changed the terms you will show great disrespect for the order and great disrespect to the court which will consider your earlier application to have been a waste of court time.

Your decision: stick to the order and earn brownie points or reject it and risk the court''s displeasure at a later date when you actually need the court to be on your side.

Forseti wrote:

For now you really are much better advised to stick to the order. There is a reason why you have had to go to court and a reason why you have the order you have been given. If you break the terms of the order now you set a precedent and send your ex the message that you will be prepared to break other aspects of the order in the future.

If you can go for your review in December showing that you have kept to the terms of the order you can argue then that you are communicating better and can ask that you be given the flexibility to agree your own terms.

If, however, you attend having changed the terms you will show great disrespect for the order and great disrespect to the court which will consider your earlier application to have been a waste of court time.

Your decision: stick to the order and earn brownie points or reject it and risk the court''s displeasure at a later date when you actually need the court to be on your side.

I was just about to write something similar

ffc - please think carefully about this - Forseti has given very good advice, and reasons as to why you should stick to the terms of the interim order. I think it wise to take heed of his advice and not deviate from the terms of your current order. You can, at the review, show the Court the improved communication between the two of you and say that you are both happy to make your own arrangements for handover locations (for example).

ffc1991 wrote:

but I truely think my EX suggested this to try be helpful and move on from all the crap.

What I would do?
Move on from the crap.Maybe she''s handing you an olive branch so take it.From this maybe more will grow.

You are deviating from the contact order in a positive way. The court likes to see parents making an effort. They won;t expect you to stick to every word of the order if a slight adjustment benefits all.

Take this as a positive sign.

Just my opinion.

Hi Joe

That''s the way I see it tbh but I don''t want to hampen my court chances either, I don''t belive theirs any aterior motives behind any of this. I find it hard to comprehend that the court will look dimply upon it when it shows communication is working well between the parents? It was also a Consent Order aswell that we agreed before going into the court room.

I dunno it''s a couple of weeks away I''ll have a think I appreciate your comments all of you though.

Ok well before I seeked everybody''s advice I did accept her offer as previous stated. After reading people''s comments here I emailed her and just said can we stick to usual drop of pick up point this week as I changed my plans and was closer to what I wanted to do now.

Well this was over a week ago. Iv''e had absoloutely no response from her. Iv''e tried emailing and a couple of texts and got absoloutely nothing back. I have emailed her solicitor a letter explaining the situation and asking for clarification that the drop off will be at the usual place and that was a little under a week ago and have had no response from the solicitor.

What should I do now?

Surely theres nothing stopping my EX now from just claiming she didn''t get my texts or emails? And just tun up at the previous agreed place?

What do I do if she does this?

I do think she was being kind offering to change I do believe that but as per usual she''s gone to the other side of her personality and sees it as the perfect opportunity to be awkward.

This is the final straw really. Without a doubt now I will stick to the order to not allow anything like this to happen again.

She finally replied so no bother now.