How are barristers supposed to work?

I went to a financial hearing met my barrister and spoke about the assets etc and what i wanted, then there was some toing and froing between rooms and they seemed to spend most time with my ex her solicitor and the 2 barristers?
I had the distinct impression I was getting done over.
I was asked questions regarding thing I would agree to pay etc in an itemised way yet Ive recently heard im expected to pay my ex a lump sum every month?
This isnt what I agreed to.
How and where do I stand?

They were probably hammering out the negotiating of a settlement. I think that's what the Hearings are for.

If you don't understand, just ask, you can still have your say, but if you pay for legal representation, you let them do their job!

You don't have to accept what they're negotiating, and you must have it explained before you agree to anything!

A 'lump sum' is usually a one-off payment. I think you're confusing the lump-sum with the monthly spousal support maybe?

Because Ive now got a job and we live i the same house Hb and council tax benefit stops so Im being told to pay them
I dont mind that but theyre asking me to pay her?
She will just squander the money on other things, Id much rather pay direct. But this wasnt explained as being an option.

Zwitter. I would do as sera suggests and just ask. Your solicitor will no the whys and wherefores. Forget what she spends it on. Thats her problem. Just make sure she cant come back for more. You dont want to be her gravy train. Chris