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Never borrow money from friends or family

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29 Jun 12 #339928 by Wiser
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Found this article in Simon Templar''s book, Rules of Wealth, Rule 93.

I think we need to have a quick recap of what friends and family are there for - and what you are there for, for them aswell:

- caring
- loving
- supporting
- nuturing
- helping
- advising and getting advice from
- comforting
- having fun with
- sharing.

Nowhere in that lot does it mention:

- borrowing from
- stealing from
- conning.

I can personally add the following to the last list:

- using their identity
- using their address
- using their tax code
- implicating them in non-declarations
- implicating them in any fraud
- undermining parental abilities
- controlling them physically, mentally, emotionally, financially or verbally.

Enough said?
What do you think?

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07 Jul 12 #341674 by Wiser
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I am surprised considering that alot of marriages fail due to arguments over money that no-one has commented, are you all up to your eyes in debt to family/friends/bank or something? Could you not stop yourself?

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07 Jul 12 #341681 by Shoegirl
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I feel that you are trying to provoke a response so in answer to your question a failure to respond to your post is not a reflection of the fact I am in debt or otherwise.

I have a good job, am lucky enough to be able to support myself. My Stbx stole off me and lied repeatedly in relation to our finances. Since he has gone out of my life, I have taken the time to understand why I ended up with someone capable of treating me so badly. Therein lied the lesson.

I can''t change the past, I can only learn and grow from it so I have a better future. I have made great strides to build that already.

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07 Jul 12 #341686 by hawaythelads
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I didn''t really understand what the post was about.
Having said that if it''s about anyone''s spouse defrauding them financially which I guess your list is there''s a simple solution
DON''T GET MARRIED !! Because the divorce laws alone leave you open to that because a marriage contract takes away all your rights and protections as an individual financially by law.
All the best
HRH xx

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