Taking my wedding ring off

Is my problem a common one? What do you think, I would like to hear your experiences and feelings.

I cannot take my wedding ring off. I think I should wait until the Decree Absolute comes through and I am no longer officially married.

The other thing is, I am dieting and hopefully in a few months time it will just drop off.

I hear so many people take it off straight away. I am really struggling with this I suppose because it is so symbollic.

Look forward to you comments

Whatnow.

Hi Whatnow

I am one of those that took them off at 'the beginning'

I felt they were a bit of a mockery when the vows had been broken, but can understand your views on it.

Think its about how you feel, when and if you take them off - totally when you are ready and feel right to do so.

You don't have to struggle with it, its a totally personal thing, if you can't do it now, dont. Do it when YOU decide and want to x

Hi whatnow

I feel for you, I too still wear my ring even though I found out my stbx was cheating in feb.We haven't told our boys yet( both doing exams aged 17 & 19) so don't know how I will feel next week when they know? I agree it is your choice and there is no set rule,my wedding ring has more sentimental values to me mainly to do with my up bringing and the fact that the ring was blessed blah blah blah but i also agree that the ring has a meaning and that meaning has gone for me ? I will know more next week, I have talked about making it into a bullet lol! or maybe you will see it on ebay!You will know what to do as and when you need to. I work with a lady who still wears hers after 15 years of divorce, I truely think this is a personal matter.Hope this helps you M

Hi MMM

i kept my wedding ring/engagement ring until he came rond one day and I noticed he wasnt wearing his.

i asked him why he wasnt and he simply said as we're not married anymore....hhhhhmmmmm well technically we are..

it hurt like hell...

i didnt want to take my rings off, i felt lost without them, and also i thought by taking them off people would notice i wasnt married, and think "whats wrong with her".......i felt embarassed I guess....

it was about 2 mths after all this started that i did take them off, and i cried..

now i wear them on my right hand, and whilst i didnt want any of this no longer feel embarassed or ashamed....

you have to do whatever you want to and you will know when the time is right...

take care
daisy

I hadn't even thought about taking mine off until a few days after he left he came over and wasn't wearing his! Like daisy this really hurt me.

I think mine came off about a couple of months, it was just the right time for me. It wasn't just the ring either, it took me a couple of months to remove wedding pictures from the walls as well, it made me sad to look at them but I knew I needed to put them away.

Hi
I agonised over taking mine off but one day he sent me a foul e-mail and i realised I didn't want to wear his ring anymore. I wear my engagement ring on my right hand because I chose it and still love it. It's him I don't love anymore. As for photos I only had/have one of us together in a frame. It was our second date 36yrs ago. I still leave it up as I have no regrets. I have 2 great adult children and loads of happy memories so why would I regret those?

I took mine of a few weeks after I found out about his affair, to me he had broken the vows he made when he put the ring on my finger. It was upsetting and strange having a bare finger but I'm ok with it now. It was only a couple of months later I found out he had bought his girlfriend an engagement ring so I know I did the right thing removing mine.

You do what you feel is best for you. Poppie