first weekend alone

First weekend alone how did it go?
It was my first weekend on my own and I was not looking forward to it at all. In some ways I did better than I expected but I missed my son sooooooooooooooo much.

My x2b is used to travelling with work so used to not seeing him but I am always with him and I am not used to being completely alone. I sent my son a text via my x2b phone telling him I loved him and missed him. No reply. So later I sent my x2b a text to ask if he got it. One word reply “yes”. So I sent another text “you may be used to being away from our son but I am not so a reply would have been nice”
Then oh my god “yes u r right will think differently nxt time” the first time ever an admission of doing something wrong. I nearly fell of my chair.
Next he has found a house to move in to which is great but he didn’t tell me where it was and I was told by a friend where he was moving to. He has also shown our son the house before even telling where it is. I think he is trying to wind me up and doing a very good job at the moment.
Can anyone tell me what he has to pay for when he moves out? Mortgage money to support our child etc as I have no income. It’s been an emotional weekend and lots more to come I expect.

hi jude

im sorry hun your bit iffy at the moment...first time alone never easy.

theres always wiki chat if your on your own again....dont forget us will you....

Daisy
xx

Jude

It was my first weekend alone as well. My boys went to their fathers. I sent texts as well, and they went unreplied. Batteries down, busy etc.

When they came home they had been introduced to the woman and went out for a family meal. The woman whobroke up my marriage sat around the table with my children. How bizarre is that. Maybe its not, I just cannot get my head around it because I still feel like "kicking her head in" lovely turn of phrase hey and I am such a mild mannered person really!!!!

Anyway a full day has passed and I feel okay what a difference a day makes.

Its another First, first meal, first holiday etc etc

Jude hope you are feeling better today too.

Whatnow

I've got no worries about the kids being introduced to the girlfriend and going out for a meal, as she was my best friend they hate her more than I do and if they ate together she would end up wearing the food. Sorry for your situation though, mine are bigger, must be tough.

So sorry to hear how difficult it was for all of you, not sure how I would cope. I still have this to come, in summer hes' taking them away for a holiday, longer than I have ever been away from them even when I was working. Which is lovely because I can't afford to do it, and they will love it, they are teenagers. I have arranged to go and stay with a friend because I know I will miss the cheeky devils so much, and I think they will miss me too. Trying not to dwell, catastrophise, etc. All tips for coping gratefully received

Hi Jude

It must be difficult for you but if its any consolation I have threee kids and only see them occasionally as they are with their Fathe as he is in the marital home until it is sold.

I miss them so much but have sort of got used to it and my eldest and youngest keep in regulat contact though my middle one is becoming distant.

Just savour the time on your own - do all those things you have always never had the time to do and we are all here for a chat if you're feeling lonely!!

Good Luck!

Mollyx

my ex2b didn't introduce his new partner in that way he simply took our 9 year old to stay for the weeken with the woman and her childre and extended family.he didn't tell me beforehand and snatched the mobile from her when she tried to txt me because she was scared.on her return i had to deal with a traumatised child.school noticed she was sad and withdrawn.she wouldn't let me out of my sight i couldn't even head to the loo alone.it was back to square one for a while.at least your ex2b's considered the children's feelings .the only way to deal with the children's absence is to keep busy after a while it will become good quality me time.