Removal of X box

hi guys...

sounds a daft title doesnt it....but ive come home from work around 12ish as I couldnt cope with it anymore....

im tired and had enough today, lots of tears again...and yes i keep asking myself why.....


had to drop a letter off for ex to his parents, that didnt help....

came home and wanted to chill in the lounge but his x box was there, and i know its daft, its a bloody box for gods sake but it a constant reminder, he loves playing it....golf games mainly or live fighting games.....you guys will know wht i mean im sure....

anyway i thought thats it its going in a cupboard....looked behind the tv and god the wiring !!!! its scarey really....but ive taken it all out and put it away....so now in the lounge any way there's nothing left of him.....nothing left of the man i loved and married and watched playing these games, and played the games with him.........

i want to ring him you know.....but i know its wrong and wouldnt solve anything, and what do i want out of it ??? i dont even know if i would take him back now.....the thought of him with her.....

it hurts though, that someone you've loved for 15 years, been faithful to for 15 years, could do something like this....

do you know i cant even remember what he sounds like its been just over a month sine we last saw each other and had a chat...i know we had the emails 3 weeks ago and i told him not to contact me, but i feel gutted that he hasnt...........but then what do i do if he did ??? panic thats what i would do...

so i guess i just wanted to post my latest step i guess...

his wardrobe is next on the list and the cupboards with his clothes in....its all got to go in the loft....today though his x box going is one small baby step....i just wish i didnt feel so daft about it....

Daisy - not so happy today

xx

Hi daisy, sorry to hear you are not having a good day. What helped me after ex left was to move all of his things into the spare bedroom, I knew after a couple of weeks that there was no chance of us getting back together so I cleared everything of his, wardrobe, drawers, bedside table, clothes etc into the spare room and shut the door. The room was full and it stayed there until he got his new house. I re-arranged my bedroom so it looked different. In the living room I removed things that we had collected together and replaced them with things of mine and bought a few new things. I put new pictures on the wall that I really liked. I know it sounds silly but it did help me because like you everytime I looked at his things I felt sick to my stomach.

It was small steps for me daisy and I'm still taking them but at least I'm going in my direction now. Take care. Poppie

Hi Daisy,

God! i know what you are going through. on bad days i just cannot bear being in the house, the photographs around the house drive me insane (memories everywhere) her clothes and persoanl things are still here and they all mean something!

She is in work today (we are business partners), i havent seen her since last thursday and as soon as she walked through the door my stomach did a flip! (god i hate the effect and power she has over me).

Deep down i know that i am slowly getting better (stronger) and much of that is down to my good wiki friends and fellow sufferers.

Daisy, keep going sweetheart, you are not on your own and i know exactly how lost and desperate you are feeling.

we are all here for you, take care Daisy.

Stimo x

Daisy, it helped me to clear away all exs stuff, it all went into black bin bags, they were handed over to him, and the clearup helped me to move forward.
Never anticipated his behaviour, but it helped me to feel I had some kind of control, dignified as in all items were left intact in the bags.
He did ask to store some bicycles in the garage, but I did put them at the back of the house to be collected, as his new friend had a garage, and as she'd stored every other item for him she was welcome to a couple of bikes too.

daisygreen

tell me about it. ive had SO many days like that. lunkily for me i have a good froend who is down to earth and a s2b divorcee himself, who is great for emotional and physical support.
my bad days got to the point of not eating, not getting out of bed even for a smoke (i wont smoke in bed), and very nasty thoughts. lucky with support on here and from friends when i fianlly fealt ready to tell them how bad i been.
basically what im saying is ive been there and with help im out f the hard times. yes i dare say ill still a few bad days but thet are now the minority not the majority

oops posted that in forum...
on topic though me and my friends are moving things around in flat saturday to make it myown...
all her stuff that remains will go into storage until it either get collected or i burn it... only joking.

I know this is a bit late since your last reply but when my hubby was moving out for the 2nd time i took delight in throwing all his clothes in black bags making sure they were all crumpled and adding in a shaking of itching powder as well. The icing on the cake was putting the itching powder in his dry suit for scuba diving!!!

xx