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Off to see a solicitor - feel so jittery

elephantandcastle
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26 Jun 08 #28903 by elephantandcastle

Topic started by elephantandcastle

After receiving what seems like a crazy proposal from my wife, wanting sole name on the FH for about 7% of its value I am off to see a solicitor this afternoon.

I feel so shaky and nervous about it all, forgetful, doing stupid things. I feel like I am off for a serious operation - its crazy, I am paying her lots of money to help me!

Just wondered if everyone felt the same way?

rubytuesday
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26 Jun 08 #28906 by rubytuesday

Reply from rubytuesday

Awww, elephantandcastle

Please dont get yourself worked up about seeing your sols, its not as bad as you think it will be.

write down any points and questions you want to raise, that way u wont forget to ask them. I felt sick before my first visit, and all for nothing, as mt sols was very kind and helpful.

Good luck, and let us know how you get on.

Hugs

Ruby xx

hadenoughnow
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26 Jun 08 #28911 by hadenoughnow

Reply from hadenoughnow

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good advice from ruby. Write down a brief summary of your situation and the financials ... then give it to the sol to read. Much quicker than explaining it all. And don't forget t o stress that you want to keep costs down and see how much you can do yourself - ie filling in forms etc etc .

Deep breaths. You'll be fine. Let us know later how it went eh?

Hadenoughnow

D L
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26 Jun 08 #28912 by D L

Reply from D L

Hi there

As Ruby says, have a list with you, although to be honest, most will quide you through an initial meeting. Don't worry about taking notes while you are there, as the solcitor should send you a letter summarising everything.

Take care

Amanda

elephantandcastle
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26 Jun 08 #28918 by elephantandcastle

Reply from elephantandcastle

I know its irrational

I seem to have come down with a cold today as well - or maybe hay fever. I have a list of points printed out, and the summary from mediation. I imagine things will go ok.
I am a bit worried that the wifes solicitor is a partner with loads of experience, and mine seems fairly junior.

D L
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26 Jun 08 #28922 by D L

Reply from D L

Hi there

I am not quite going to say that years in doesnt matter...but to be honest unless your case is legally or factually complex, what is more important is that you are comfortable with her; that she gives you sound advice; that she sees you and her as a team; and that she has plenty of pragmatism and a desire to find the best solution for both of you.

Amanda

elephantandcastle
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26 Jun 08 #28965 by elephantandcastle

Reply from elephantandcastle

I had an awful job finding the office, I was panicing - asked lots of people and got there on time.

Things went ok really, I calmed down a bit - I was glad I had some notes. Going to ask for the sale of the MH and a 50/50 spilt. Apparently for a court to enforce this you have to apply for divorce, that might be the next step.
Of course it looks as if the house I am buying will fall through now

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