Wedding Anniversary

Sorry Guys

But this is going to be a miserable early morning post!!!
It would have been my 13th wedding anniversary today-unlucky for some eh!

Just when I think I've got myself together with getting divorced something like this comes up and here we go again. Don't get me wrong there is a very big part of me that is glad about the divorce. His 2 year affair destroyed virtually all the love I ever had for him. But these sorts of days are just a killer and I find myself thinking this morning when is this hell ever going to end. Do you really ever get over it? Right now I have my doubts.
Anyway,sorry to sound so pitiful but needed to get this off me chest before I face a day at work.
Mirfield:(

Hi Mirfield

Sorry to hear your feeling down today and hope you find the strength to get through the day. I will be thinking about you and there will be lots of days like this but hopefully in time they will hurt a little bit less. I have been married 13 years too this year and im not looking forward to my wedding anniversary.

((((((((((((hug))))))))))

Jude x

Hi Mirfield

You do get over it for me the date of my anniversary is just another day now, our last anniversary together not 1 person sent us a card and neither did we give each other a card, we split 11 months later looks as if people knew what was coming.

Were here for you Mirfield when you get home and need a shoulder.

Try looking at this the otherway round. Its X anmount of years you have been without his sorry arse. You should be saying how lucky I am I found out and now he is gone. Noone should have to put up with a cheeting husband and you are worth more than that. The glass is half full not half empty. C

Interested thread and fully understand the many varied emotions involved.

We have just seperated over the past two months and we have both been through the various emotional stages (think i am permanantley stuck in the anger phase at the moment), however

Its our wedding anniversary at end of the month - my thoughts are to just treat it like any other working day and not celebrate - any opinions.

My wife and i get on ok at moment and suspect she may want to mark the occasion - what should i (we) do ???

Dennis

Yes interesting. I have a similar situation approaching very fast. To boot its her birthday this Friday. Cant make my mind up if I will get a birthday card or not.

I already know she’s got plans for what would have been our 11th Anniversary because she’s given me the date to have the children.

But not to be awkward I have planned the weekend away with the children camping.

Sometimes you have to take one day at a time, some days 1 hour at a time. It is horrible, its something that’s never researched although it consumes you. Don’t let it. The medical treatment is only time….

Sounds like a bad day was always on the cards for this Mirfield - I hope you're ok thru it. Anniversaries, birthdays, etc will be hard for a whie but I suspect, like everything else, they will get easier over time.

My second wedding anniversary is coming up in about 3 weeks - altho we did live together for 21 years before we got married - and I'm really not looking forward to that. It certainly doesn't feel appropriate to do anything to mark it, so I think just (trying to) forget about it is really the only option.

The anniversary of us first getting together went un-celebrated this year - my wife spent that particular weekend with the person she's commiting adultery with and lied to me about it. So I'm not really in the mood to 'celebrate' aanything else like this