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26 Mar 12 #320133 by Marshy_
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livinginhope wrote:

Thanks Marshy.I suppose I''m envious that he is moving to what used to be my dream location.I would love to live there but can''t afford it.That may be one of the reasons he chose it to show how well he can do without me.

Ok I get you. But look at it this way. Say you wanted to own a yo yo. And I wanted to show you that I could afford a yo yo, but I didnt realy need it. In fact I cant yo yo for toffee. What does that say about me? It just shows that I want to rub yr nose in it. And that I may not be happy with the yo yo. This is the thing with some people. They like to put on a "show". My ex used to have a sticker on the back of her car that said "Perfect family inside". Does this mean that they are perfect now they have a sticker? Its just a show. It doesnt mean anything. And it doesnt mean just cos you live somewhere posh that you will be happy. Look at Princess Dianna? She lived in Kensington. But she wasnt happy. Being happy has nothing to do with where you live. And you dont need to show someone you are happy. You just are and you dont care if someone knows or not.

I''m well aware that he will manage very well financially so I need to just shrug my shoulders and get on with it.

Money wont buy you happiness. It may give you things. But things only bring you joy for a short time. True happiness comes from the heart. Not from a posh flat with the latest paintings and wide screen telly''s.

I''ve just emptied the rest of his stuff from the main bedroom and can''t believe how much better it looks.It also feels much calmer and more peaceful too.

You should listen to Empying out my closet by EmandEm. It feels calmer and peaceful cos he isnt there and cos you cant see his rubbish now, you feel better.

One day you will have your own place. It will be yrs. No ones else''s stuff in there except yrs. And you will not worry about the penthouse he is living in cos you will have yr nice and cosy home. All to yrself. And no one can come in unless you say so. And you will feel secure. And lastly happy. While him on the other hand will be sitting in his Italian stitched slippers watching his 50,000 inch telly and dumping the remains of his half eaten pizza on the floor wondering who is going to clean the mess up. U on the other hand, wont have this problem. And lastly Sister, you will have the last laugh. She who laughs last, lasts longest. C.

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