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14 Jul 12 #343129 by Tracey1971
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Hiya everyone
Omg huh I am going to save what you have wrote and every time I feel low and the need to to contact him I will read that as it has made me think I don''t have to put up with all your crap and have to build myself a wall around myself when it concerns him to protect myself from any further hurt and pain. I know one day I will feel better and everyone tells me that and I just need to focus on all the positive in my life. I know he feels shameful for what he has down as he has cut himself off from all family and friends and has no one really, which I don''t care as he has done all this himself and tbh even if he is still seeing her they are welcome to each other as I know when it comes out he will loose any little respect our kids had for him and most likely any relationship he had with them so I need to stay strong for when that day comes as I am sure it will. Thank you for all the comments they are a great help x

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19 Jul 12 #344192 by wammcl
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I''m nearing the fifth month of the ''bombshell'' - I had all the blame heaped on me in front of my 3 kids - in their older teens. he reduced me to a gibbering sobbing wreck...but he wanted the divorce to to be as non-contentious as possible - even the Petition praised me at one point!! Then, gradually the little bits of evidence come out about other women, friends telling me what they''d heard, managing to grab his phone while he was in the shower and finding texts etc.. but still he denies. We moved out - you have to keep your distance from him to survive. He is guilty and knows he can no longer blame you. I share how you feel - it is appalling, I know. Again, come on here for the next couple of months and it is amazing how much better these wonderful, kind people will make you feel better and help you make sense of it all. It''s a slow journey, but I never imagined I would be as strong now when I was feeling like you. Show him how strong you are too - cut him out of your life as much as is practicable - he f.ck.d up, NOT you and he needs to realise it. It will improve I promise xxx

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