I''m here again!!!

Why won''t he leave me alone? I have asked and asked him to stay away from me, have contact only for our daughter and yet time and time again he finds a way back into my home my life and my head - why? He has his tart why does he need me? I sat him down and told him how much it hurt for him to be around me involving himself in my life, I told the truth in the hope that he would understand and yet again he invites me out to lunch with him and our daughter, wants to help with the house move, unpacks my cases and puts away my clothes, is it some sick game he is playing? Then he goes back to her - rings me when he is there and I can hear their baby in the background - I can''t say no to him I want him here and he knows that, he wants to be friends and I have made it very clear I want more - I know I should take control myself and shut the door in his face and I do but 5 or 6days go by and he finds another excuse - why? I did nothing wrong he had an affair and a baby why does he continue the mind games?

You have my greatest sympathy. I have been there, i think occasionally i am still there. Sometimes i sit wondering what he is doing with his girls (there were two both half his age)but i give myself a good talking to and make myself busy.
he will do this to you because he can. And he can because you let him.
I made it clear to my ex that if he continued to contact me i would involve the police, I asked him to stay in the car when he picked up the kids or dropped them off (not that they see him now either).I have been much stronger with no contact but it is still hard. Once you get a hold of your own feelings you will see him for what he is..

Good luck .. it gets easier

Trouble is he IS the Police! I have asked him to stay in the car but always there is some crisis he feels he has to be a part of or something he wants to give me or say to me. I wish I were stronger and that my feelings for him would go away, I was never this weak

Surprise Surprise. My ex is also the Police!!!, thought he could use it against me but it backfired on him....

stay strong. You don''t need to tell me how hard it is I know! My sister and friends helped me get stronger and a good solicitor,
he is now desperate and it shows in his actions. I have been truthful throughout he has told so many lies he is falling all over himself now.

big hug x