A well respected, award winning social enterprise
Volunteer run - Government and charity funded
We help 50,000 people a year through divorce

01202 805020

Lines open: Monday to Friday 9am-5pm
Call for FREE expert advice & service info

Do you need help sorting out a fair financial settlement?

Our consultant service offers expert advice and support to help you reach agreement on a fair financial settlement quickly, and for less than a quarter of the cost of using a traditional high street solicitor.

Help with Depression

  • rubytuesday
  • rubytuesday's Avatar Posted by
  • Moderator
  • Moderator
03 Aug 13 #403151 by rubytuesday
Topic started by rubytuesday
Family break-up, separation and divorce are incredibly stressful times in our lives, and have an enormous emotional impact on us.

At times, it can feel like you are drowning, completely overwhelmed by what you are going through, and that there is no "light at the end of the tunnel" - despite what others are saying to you.

It is important to know that you are not alone, and there is no need to suffer in silence. While our members here are very supportive and offer and provide much-needed empathy and shoulders to lean on, we can''t provide the same level of support that professional organisations who have properly trained staff that deal with people suffering from depression, emotional stress, etc.

If you need to talk to someone, the Samaritans have a phone line that is staffed 24 hours a day, every day - you can call them on 08457 90 90 90. The Samaritans will listen to you and help you talk through your concerns, worries and troubles. www.samaritans.org

The Depression Alliance is a fantastic resource and offers a lot of different support services through their website - www.depressionalliance.org

CALM (Campaign Against Living Miserably) is a support organisation for men who are suffering from depression, or who find themselves in some sort of crisis with which they may need additional help and support to overcome. THey also ahve a helpline, and you can find out more on their website - www.thecalmzone.net

Breathing Space offers tools and support services to men, their website offers more information and details of how to contact them - www.breathingspacescotland.co.uk

Your GP will also be able to provide you with medical support and suggest local organisations in your area that will be able to help you.

Having depression is nothing to be ashamed of, it will affect one in four people at any given time, it is an illness that you will recover from, with the right help and support.

You do not need to suffer alone and in silence. If you feel that you need to talk to someone, then please contact one of the organisations listed above.

  • butterfly crossing
  • butterfly crossing's Avatar
  • Platinum Member
  • Platinum Member
09 Aug 13 #403877 by butterfly crossing
Reply from butterfly crossing
I have had the help of a fantastic counsellor to get me through, and support from wiki, family and friends.

Although I had heard of the Samaritans, I have not heard of the other organisations mentioned.

As Ruby says ''you do not need to suffer in silence''

Please if you need these organisations use them, you will be surprised over time to see how much better you feel.

(((HUGS))) to all that need them

  • elderflower
  • elderflower's Avatar
  • Premium Member
  • Premium Member
27 Feb 14 #423939 by elderflower
Reply from elderflower
I would also add that some people cope really well with situations like this,,,they get their heads down, get on with it and look to the future.I''m one of those people but i also realised that despite my positivity, i''m also human and at some point have got to deal with my feelings and emotions. I went to some counselling sessions referred by my gp and within minutes i was in bits and all that pent up and hidden away emotion came out and over 8 sessions I became a new person. I would recommend it to anyone and everyone going through a relationship breakdown..it really helped me greatly.

  • lqt42v
  • lqt42v's Avatar
  • Senior Member
  • Senior Member
22 Feb 15 #456626 by lqt42v
Reply from lqt42v

I find your blogs so very helpful and informative. Do you know of any organisations that support women?

I''m doing my best to support myself (gym, Zumba classes etc) and my close family and friends are with me all the way, but I sometimes find it so hard to cope with all of the negativity this divorce process is creating for me. Sometimes, I ask myself, am I wallowing in my own self pity and therefore creating my own negativity and if so why? Couldn''t sleep a wink last night, yet couldn''t put my finger on the reason for this. I wasn''t reminiscing, or thinking of the stbx - my eyes/body was just not having any of it. In the past I have drunk myself to sleep but this type of self destruction has now stopped, although it is very tempting to resume - at least I get some sort of rest.

  • rubytuesday
  • rubytuesday's Avatar Posted by
  • Moderator
  • Moderator
23 Feb 15 #456674 by rubytuesday
Reply from rubytuesday
Hello lqt42v, the organisations which support only women that I am aware of, are mostly those which support specific "groups" of women, ie victims of domestic violence, ethnic minorities, those living in a particular geographical area, etc.

Honestly, I think the best support you can get (either as a man or a woman) is right here - it''s free, altruistic, impartial, and comes from those who understand, who "get" how you are feeling, have walked a similar path and who are able to encourage you to keep going, that you won''t always like this, that life does improve and that you too will get through this.

I think you are doing some amazing activities to keep yourself occupied and healthy. But you also need to acknowledge that you are grieving, and you need to allow yourself time to grieve, and time to heal - don''t rush things, allow it to happen organically. I think it''s true that negativity breeds negativity - try to find a small, or even tiny, positive when you are feeling negative. Even just simply being alive and breathing is a positive. Practice self-care, focus holistically on yourself, be kind to yourself.

Everyone is different,and while we experience the same emotional spectrum, there is no hard and fast rule about when we begin to feel better, when the situations we are in stop consuming our every waking thought - I know this is such a cliche, but time really is a great healer.


Moderators: wikivorce teamrubytuesdaydukeyhadenoughnowTetsSheziLinda SheridanForsetiMitchumWhiteRoseLostboy67WYSPECIALBubblegum11

The modern, convenient and affordable way to divorce.

No-Fault Divorce £179

We provide the UK's lowest cost no-fault divorce service, managed by a well respected firm of solicitors. 

Online Mediation £250

Online mediation is a convenient and inexpensive way to agree on a fair financial settlement.

Consent Orders from £359

This legally binding agreement defines how assets (e.g. properties and pensions) are to be divided.

Court Support £250

Support for people who have to go to court to get a fair divorce financial settlement without a solicitor.