arghhhh

It is so comforting to know others feel the same as me. Wow, I felt so alone!!

Over the last 4.5 yrs, I did/ do make out to my ex or make sure it gets back, I am out all the time having a fantastic life and enjoying myself, which most of the time I do. I used to feel good about it as I know he had young children to stay in for but it is always tinged with a little sadness as time has gone on though and I have always had some down days.

Do you think it is true that if they have someone else they will eagerly want divorce, with no remorse??

I know if I had someone else and he didn''t, I would be concerned about him and amicable, where I have not had that treatment from him. It has been either like I don''t exist or I have been an inconvenience.

I won''t contact him. Should know that from the break up etiquette Hard though

Thanks Marshy,

Great advice.

I once read that the best advice to give yourself is to step away and give advice like you were a friend looking at yourself.

Thinking of it like that, we all would know exactly how to act, but our heart gets all mushy and stops us from seeing clearly or listening to our head.

You are all right. Exactly the advice I would give myself. Just my emotional side needs a kick into gear, when it wallows into the past and erases the fact that there were some pretty awful times as well as good, or none of us would be here.