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05 May 15 #460853 by MrsMathsisfun
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Sorry but you are being controlling. What if it was the other way around with you suffering from depresssion, how would you feel if your stbx started to request proof that your child was ''ok'' in your care.

Lots of people suffer depression and are more than capable of still functioning.

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06 May 15 #460948 by Minni
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I don''t think I am. Absolutely they do but as a caring mother I would like to know that the person with depression is in best care and gets the support needed for parenting. I do believe any mental health issue affects a child''s wellbeing so why not get support?!
Yes my ex did ask and was controlling(I didn''t mind providing one though) that is why I am trying to be extra careful.

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06 May 15 #460950 by Lostboy67
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To be quite direct you are being controlling, and ultimately its a bit of a waste of time. The reason being that from experience the usual test for depression is the PHQ9 questionnaire , all your ex would need to do is to answer the questions in such a way to show no sign of depression (this is very easy to do). In many ways you would be creating a potentially worse situation, it would be natural for your ex to question your motives and as a result seek to hide any condition that may exist and not seek help for that condition.
Many parents suffer from depression, I was one, but it does not stop us being good parents. Many parents (mainly mothers) suffer from post natal depression and in the most part its a bit of a non-issue.


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06 May 15 #460953 by Gillian48
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If you have any concerns maybe you need to contact social services, but you may be causing more problems by doing this.
Many people suffer from depression and are getting treatment it doesn''t mean they''re not coping or dealing with it.
How do you know your ex isn''t getting support and help? Mental health issues and depression could be different issues.
If you any evidence and are unduly concerned speak to social services - but you might make the situation a whole lot worse? They may be able to put your mind at rest though?

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