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05 Sep 16 #483297 by Strawberrypimms
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:(It's at a point where I am struggling to stay strong.
After being as amicable as possible (many comments from people on how they couldn't behave as I have) I am getting to the point when I feel desperate for this to be over.
Our house hasn't sold, we are still sharing and the situation can't change as we can't afford to rent until it does.
Husband is getting quietly nastier behind my back and I feel so old and tired.
I am lucky I have brilliant kids and friends but divorce is frightening and I am getting older the longer this goes on.
Any advice to get through this stage please? I am already on a-depressants, take exercise and try to stay focussed on a better future but some days like today I simply feel it's all too much to bear. How do you motivate yourself to keep going?

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05 Sep 16 #483298 by movingon6
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I know how you feel...luckily the X lives 200 miles away. I can't imagine what it is like for you living under the same roof as you are with the X.
I just take each day as it comes, one foot in front of the other and when something crops up I deal with it, thus taking me one step closer to resolution. I'm still in limbo, nothing is really moving forward but i know it won't be like this forever. I try and keep busy as possible so there is little time to ruminate.
Unfortunately divorce can be a long, stressful drawn out process but you will come out the other side...try and just live in the moment. Xx

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09 Sep 16 #483462 by Lymm
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I feel for you, I too was lucky my ex lived in America and is now in Mexico so no contact at all now but it's taken two years.
I had to put up with threats via FaceTime until I plucked up the courage to press the off button, so then he moved to emails. That I put a stop to be sending them to the solicitor.
I'm sorry you have to live together, it must be awful. I couldn't have taken that. I was on anti depressants but have to say am now a month free of them.
I know it's hard but now two years down the line I'm free, we are divorced and the children and I have a home of our own and he can't hurt or bully us ever again.
It will get better I promise but feel,free to rant on here as much as you like. Two years ago I was on here every night as sleep was difficult and the people here were my salvation.
Take care and never be scared to ask for help.

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