Update

Evening folks,

It's been really quite a while since I posted on here but I wanted to give an update, for those who helped me but mostly for those who are just starting out on this long road.

It's been over 18 months now since the bomb dropped in my life and most of you will know how hard it was for me, mainly as you have been there yourselves.

At the time it felt completely surreal, as if this cannot possibly be happening to me and that surely this can't be my life now. It felt like my faith in everything had gone - people, society, truth, trust etc. Sounds melodramatic but that's how it felt. At times it was unbelievably difficult and I reached out to whoever was there - wiki, Samaritans, family.

However the process of time passing along with hard work has significantly changed how I feel and my perspective of the situation.

Yes, I get sad - often. Yes I think about my separation every single day. But I feel so much better. The rawness of it has gone....I think that is the grieving process taking it's natural course.

The things that helped my were -

- writing stuff down every day and getting things off my chest
- speaking to family and friends
- exercise
- mindfulness and meditation
- self-development and self-help books
- therapy

This is still a work in progress but I just wanted to offer some encouragement to people still hurting. Many kind people on here did the same for me (posting and private messaging you know who you are!). I found ti hard to believe them at the time but there were right.

I just put my Xmas tree up on my own and it was poignant but I smiled to myself whilst doing it and felt peaceful.

All the best people - chins up.

M xx

Hi Moona50

What a truly uplifting post to read I remember the rawness of your posts a while back and I am so delighted to hear that things are on the up for you - your post gives us all hope that there really is light at the end of the tunnel.

Wishing you all the happiness in the world.

Jalisia

It was posts like these that gave me hope in the early dark days, great to hear that you are peaceful with the situation these days and I'm sure things will continue to get better