Finally moving on....:) !

Morning Wiki folks,

Well, it's been a good few months since my last post, I've had a major birthday recently & have decided to "grab the bull (& the ex) by the horns".

I'm finally standing my ground & putting the bullying to an end,

I've been trying to get him our of my life for several years now & it's dragged on beyond comprehension, he is a maniulative bully, who messes with my mind.

I recently hit the milestone age & thought, enuf is enuf...i've made the decision to sell up, head back to Wales & leave him high & dry, i'm not going to stand it any more, i've finally woke up to life passing me by & being utterly miserable.

I'm gutted at the fact i have to sell my home & leave my job, i'm excited to be going back home to Wales, But i feel i have know other choice, pretty drastic measures just to get your end result.

I feel like a massive weight has been lifted & i'm ready to move on, thank you Wiki people for all your advice & the courage to spur me on....all be it, that it's taken a while to get the kick up the a** that i needed. Wishing you all well in your futures, best wishes D xx

What a great post! A huge decision to up-sticks and leave your job and home, but I think it's a wise one as you seem comforted by the thought that you're 'going home' when you move to Wales. You had become so utterly worn down by it all, and you sound upbeat for the first time in a long time.

Yes, significant birthdays have a way of forcing us to make decisions about what life should be about.

All good wishes for a happy future with new memories,

Mitchum

Wow, you are inspirational, and I hope to get to moving on, in the future. It's like wading through treacle . Best of luck in Wales. XB)

tremendous news, good luck and keep the focus on you. The bravery its taken to make the decision does you huge credit now stick to the plan!
Remember change the focus, your happiness and the new life you've chosen to lead is waiting for you in Wales.

well done

Hi Dafodil, i feel your pain, mine was a manipulative bully, iwas at total breaking point. it was either him or me..... !

A few months ago, i found a "chink" in his armor, played a blinder & used it to my advantage, after all these years, it took for him to snap at me again, i snapped & snarled back & there it was the light bulb moment.

When i realisd where he weakness was i played it to my advantage, he's been slowly backing down from me, don't get me wrong, it's been hard to do because that's not normally in my nature, but i had to keep it up to test him.

I finally found that if i was mean back to him, he melted like a snowman on a beach in the Bahamas, i can't believe i was so niave & it took me so long.

I still have doubts about what i'm doing, but i know i have to see this all thru, i want my life & me back, like i was about 10 years ago, i think it was that milestone birthday that made me wake up to it all.

I realised how desperately unhappy i was & was i prepared to live like this any longer or maybe, even forever more.So i've had to do this now, i will do my utmost to stand tall & carry on with it...i'm so excited to going home to Wales to be with my family, & start over again. Daffodil, your time will come, it might take you that last little bit of courage, please, if i can get this far you can too....i'm the biggest cowardy custard out there, It's given me a sense of worth & wellbeing & more inportantly, it's given me a confidence that got knocked back so long ago.

Best Wishes all, thank you for all the kind words, now it's your time to shine xxxxx
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Thanks D, for the lovely reply, I have not been on for a bit. Filling my life with more positives. :Mdaffodil x