Need some advice pls on settlement

I would concur with that. It's certainly practical, but unless they have some huge reason for requiring their part of that settlement, like having to support six children of their own, I would say it's not very fair at all.

Thank you everyone for the replies. I have a part time job confirmed starting shortly but only earning about £650 pm. My partner says that's more than enough to live on ! Which it isn't as average rent for a two bed house in my area (I can't afford to buy property outright as it is £300k + for a two bed flAt or house) is between £1000-£1200 pm he has always been selfish and controlling when it comes to money but he is taking it to a whole new level! I'm waiting for him to submit petition. I think he is dragging his heels now because he doesn't want to part with any money, let alone a 'fair' settlement. But as I can see from your comments he is grossly undervalued the settlement and I should definitely push for more than he is offering. Thank you all your supportive responses and help. I really appreciate it .

Following on from my earlier post, I saw my barrister today and, since we are in similar positions, here’s what she reckons for me:

- I get whole house mortgage free financed by husband taking on a bigger mortgage for himself since he earns loads and I don’t and he can buy another house but I couldn’t raise any sort of mortgage myself
- I ask for whole pension since he can continue to pay lots in to a new one cos he earns loads and I don’t. (She expects me to get 2/3)
- Global maintenance to equalise our standards of living payable until he can capitalise it by liquidating part of the business in five years. And payable indefinitely if he can’t find a lump sum

Your husband is a very long way off the mark!

My ex's original position was similar. She gets the house for the sum of £1, takes 1/2 my income until she gets remarried and uses that to pay the pittance of a mortgage and takes 2/3 of my pension. This means that she never has to get a job because she can't as a result of ill health.

My solicitor took one look at that proposal and laughed. It never went any further.

Hmmmm prob not quite the same... it leaves my husband with two thirds of his salary for just himself and one third for me and three boys. Also gives up
Any claim on his bonuses and dividends which in the last couple of years have amounted to £120k. And his ‘bigger’ mortgage will be £100k less than he’s been paying in fact cos we’ll sell the flat to reduce the FMH mortgage (he’s been paying for that plus a new one for himself quite easily for the last three years anyway)
And I’ve been trying to get back to a position where I can work but I’ve been knobbled by a suicidal child, one with an eating disorder and the other who’s autistic. Husbands continuing successful and well paid career relies on me not making demands on him to look after our children

I'm not trying to take him to the cleaners. But I have spent twenty years of my life in this marriage I was the major breadwinner when we met. With the arrival of children and his job changing to include much more commuting and overseas travel, and having no relatives to help with childcare, I had little choice to go part time and work around children. It was not my fault I got cancer in my early forties! I had two years of chemo and x 6 operations plus other treatment and still had to run the house and look after the kids. My oldest has mental health issues, anxiety and panic attacks and has dropped out of university due to the stress of the situation we now find ourselves in! All my oh seems to be concerned about is keeping a four bedroom house for himself so that he can maintain his lifestyle because he needs 'stuff' e.g. cars, motorbikes etc and he feels financially he is due everything. I just want to be able to pay my bills, eat and have a roof over my head !

Hey Spooky Moo
Just wondering how you’re doing..... hope you managed to get something better than was on offer sorted. Sooooo stressful xx