How to throw away a £200k pension pot

So I am back here after 6 years off dealing with a financial madman. Several financial solutions have been found that enable a pretty large split at a 60/40 in my favour due to business that he took over and I lost my position, however still no agreement and is insisting on selling up all property, including the pension pot investment property that could be mortgage free in 10 years with the mortgage paid for plus rental income by others, then sell at end and divide 50/50 for our pension. What sort of financial idiot would do their utmost to deplete all funds , not want the pension we had originally decided on how we would fund many years ago.. and then everytime we get to a near resolution he starts the nonsense again. Reuses to open solicitor letters, is described by my solicitor as extremely un co operative and I am at wits end as he says he will wantonly defy court proceedings too ??? What does one do when dealing with such a stupid, stupid and spiteful and self destructive man ? Is it possible to defy court proceeding letters and timetable etc.. how much does it really cost and what other options may be open to me ? Someone surely must have a suggestion or have come across a 6 year mind and money game ??? Thanks

Sorry to hear your dilemma makes mine appear tame and only three and a half years.

Can I ask how he's avoided a final hearing. I thought once you started the court route it was staged hearing and direction.

My FH is imminent and I thought that would be it. Go to court judge ruled and game over. You have me wondering now.

Hi, sorry to hear of your problems too. Mine has managed to play cat and mouse, sick mind games, moving house , now on partner number 2, but the original 'other woman' from back in the beginning.. she supposedly disappeared whilst he set up shop with another woman, that ended, then he appeared in one of our empty properties that was up for sale, then without warning disappeared from there a couple of weeks ago and moved in with tramp number 1 .. and all solicitors letters were ignored and still common sense with the delusional person. Wants his cake and eat it, with cherries on the top and sprinkles and a rum bab ba… Every time we get to some 'solution' he then either moves or just declines to engage.. Wasted £1000's in advice and letters in an attempt to avoid court due to ill health but enough is enough but I really want to know if he can insist on messing up all life finances out of spite, and sheer guilt , bloody mindedness and arrogance?? He is a master of mind games, is a financial abuser and manipulator and wears various 'masks' depending on his moods … Very VERY difficult to sort out , sadly and extreme stress has now overtaken me.

Just apply to court, I think it’s another £255 and form A. You also have to get a mediator to tick the box to say you went, that was another £102. That way you get it sorted, but I had the ex from hell, and it took 1.5 years from applyingto receiving handout. I showed up in court 3 times, but it did at least bring an end to things, and meant I was able to move on (In my new pad bought with the proceeds) hallelujah.
The whole thing brings stress, and you have lived with it long enough.
I too did the nice approach, but he was nuts and delayed, didn’t respond, thought I would just disappear and give up....well I didn’t, I applied to court.
At court he showed up with a solicitor, a barrister and everyone from the solicitors office....must have cost him a fortune!
I just had a barrister, she said him having all these people show that he is a “Difficult client” hell yeah, I know!

Thank you for your reply .. God, what a nightmare thes people really are !? .. Did you have a soliciotro do this for you or did you do it mainly on your own ? … I am at a loss, both mentally draind and financially drained and abused and see no way of achieving closure anytime soon and I am feeling pretty stressed in last few weeks. Is just my Form A sufficient or do I somehow need to get him to comply with disclosure etc.. which of course he won't , as he most certainly has concocted a financial haystack with a needle well and truly hidden in it .. After best part of an entire adult life I can look at his face and know he is lying !! … He will also 100% lie in court, which also gives me fear factor and stress... How difficult is this court hearing via Form A out of curiosity, if you don't mind me asking ?

Form A is very easy and you can get lots of support from this website to help you self represent.

The thing about going through the courts is that it us the judge who will deal with him he he fails to comply. If he messes about too much he could end up in jail.

The court can also make orders to prevent some of the activity you have described.

Give the helpline a call for advice.

Hadenoughnow

Thank you so much for this advice .. I think I am going to be brave and do this, as it really can't go on any longer. Do I need anything beforehand to explain why the Decree Nisi has not been completed , as in, his constant nonsense , my cancer in the middle of it and then more nonsense around and after it, right up to date. Just having so much stress and anguish with it this last week as it has obviously gone on far too long but not really been in any physical or mental state to fight the fight until very recently, hence , I guess that he has scooted off to hide in another 'new family' as a defence and cover , probably same scenario as before... using other woman as a port in a storm !!?? … A revolving, serial liar with an ego the size of 'Trumps' !!???