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trying to get a contact order to see my kids

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10 years 11 months ago #141135 by rich mallows
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hi i need some help/advice my ex wife took my kids to belfast 6 years ago and stopped contact with me, i dont know where she is and the kids have been posioned against me i dont know where to go from here in getting a contact order help me please

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10 years 11 months ago #141136 by mateymike
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How old are the kids? How do you know kids have been poisoned against you if you don't know where they are?
Have you tried looking up the electoral register for your x?

Mike

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10 years 11 months ago #141266 by abc321
Hi, lookup www.fnf.org.uk for help with contact . Attend their local meeting; if in London then Central london branch on tuesdays at 8pm.

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10 years 11 months ago #141385 by rich mallows
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Hi Mike,
my son Montell is 12 and my daughter Georgia is 9. I've just got my ex's address from the electoral roll and she's still in Belfast. As for knowing that she's poisoned my children's minds, she's been seen by members of my family and things have been said. I use to live in Gillingham with my ex and kids, she still has family there and occassionally visits. I also have family who live in the area and on the occassions they have been seen I've had reports back from my family members.
she also tried to contact my brother through facebook and told him she wants nothing to do with me and neither do the kids! I believe she suffers from Parental Alienation Syndrome, I read up on it and everything it describes rings true with her.
To abc321, thanks for the link, there's some useful stuff on there!

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10 years 11 months ago #142023 by mateymike
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Hi again

If you go for a contact order and your son says he doesn't want to see you then it is likely that the court wouldn't enforce any contact . Your daughter being younger may be a different case. You may need to consider whether after 6 years any contact would need to be introduced gradually such as letters first and whether you would be prepared to go to Belfast to make this happen. You could get advice from solicitor to see whether there would be any point in pursuing this. Have you thought about writing individual letters to the children just saying that even though you haven't seen them you still love them and think about them and giving them some way of getting in touch with you if they want to, then just leaving the door open for them to be able to do this. I have had to do this with both my daughters (through their own solicitors) after my x turned them against me. They are older and quite frankly because of this it is down to them to decide and I don't have a leg to stand on. You may find that you are in the same boat (solicitor would advise), but maybe if you contact them directly when they can make up their own minds they may want some contact. I certainly live in hope that my two do this but in the meantime I just have to get on with things.

Hope you have better luck than me but if not don't give up just leave things for a few years and then see if they change their minds - that's my plan

All the best, Mike

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