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9 years 9 months ago #233029 by paulm620
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Hiya Tups
hope the mediation went ok today and you have now calmed down
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9 years 9 months ago #233044 by totallylost
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Hiya LOF.Glad it went ok xx

I got your PM But I have hit my limit so I will reply to you tommorow. Just wanted to let you know so you didn't think I had forgotten you or was being rude by not replying!

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9 years 9 months ago #233048 by Mitchum
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Hi
Hope all went well. Speak later hopefully.

Big hugs!

Mitchum xox

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9 years 9 months ago #233076 by landoffairies
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It was all so surreal. For months of verbal requests plus letters plus confirming to a judge and barrister and now the mediator, finally ex has agreed to have our boy overnight. You have no idea of the emotional battle, the tears, the sorrow, his refusals to have our gorgeous boy for an overnight has been.I truly felt he actually didnt give a stuff for our son.
In all of this the one thing I have been adamant about is that our son knows his dad. Not just for fleeting visits or treats or sleeping in a car, but properly. My letter to the judge stated 'I want our son to grow up knowing his dad, for his father to be there in his life, as a child and as he grows up and develops his own sense of independence, guides him and helps with his education.....'
And finally, today with much persausion by myself and mediator, he has agreed this tiny but huge step. Son will be staying overnight with daddy starting in 2 weeks. We agreed that I will join him for bedtime routine as in stand-back-but-be-there. And that if our son becomes unsettled I will be nearby and on the end of the phone if it becomes too much - which it wont-well not for our child but maybe for daddy - lol...he's in for a shock(she says giggling!!!!)
Thoroughly emotionally exhausted now. Lots more happened. Our mediator was fabulous on this second session - so many options and not in the least biased towards my ex or I. Money issues start properly next session.
I learned a lot today.
I am grateful for everyones advice and thoughts. Nice to come home to and I'll hang onto them for the next session.
Thank you
Lofx

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9 years 9 months ago #233077 by totallylost
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landoffairies wrote:

It was all so surreal. For months of verbal requests plus letters plus confirming to a judge and barrister and now the mediator, finally ex has agreed to have our boy overnight. You have no idea of the emotional battle, the tears, the sorrow, his refusals to have our gorgeous boy for an overnight has been.I truly felt he actually didnt give a stuff for our son.
In all of this the one thing I have been adamant about is that our son knows his dad. Not just for fleeting visits or treats or sleeping in a car, but properly. My letter to the judge stated 'I want our son to grow up knowing his dad, for his father to be there in his life, as a child and as he grows up and develops his own sense of independence, guides him and helps with his education.....'
And finally, today with much persausion by myself and mediator, he has agreed this tiny but huge step. Son will be staying overnight with daddy starting in 2 weeks. We agreed that I will join him for bedtime routine as in stand-back-but-be-there. And that if our son becomes unsettled I will be nearby and on the end of the phone if it becomes too much - which it wont-well not for our child but maybe for daddy - lol...he's in for a shock(she says giggling!!!!)
Thoroughly emotionally exhausted now. Lots more happened. Our mediator was fabulous on this second session - so many options and not in the least biased towards my ex or I. Money issues start properly next session.
I learned a lot today.
I am grateful for everyones advice and thoughts. Nice to come home to and I'll hang onto them for the next session.
Thank you
Lofx


Make sure you do and there is no need to thank us. It was really nice reading that thread. It does make me grateful to my ex because the one thing so far she has not done is to withhold the girls from me and I hope she never does.

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9 years 9 months ago #233078 by MrsH2013
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So pleased that things went positively for you and that your ex has finally seen some sense. I hope all goes well for you and your gorgeous little boy in the weeks ahead.

Hugs ((( )))

Kitty xxx

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