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Foster Children & Divorce, do I have to keep them?

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9 years 1 month ago #276745 by jonus555
Do I Have to provide a home for foster children still living in my house and provide a new home when the house gets sold? tying the captal in the house up for 12 or so years?

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9 years 1 month ago #276817 by rubytuesday
Presumably, these are long-term foster children, as opposed to short-term/emergency fostering?

I wouldn't have thought that you would have had an obligation to provide a new home for them - that would be a matter for Social Services to deal with.

Have you been fostering these children for a long time? Is there no way you or your wife can continue to foster them, to maintain the stability and continuity that foster children need?

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9 years 1 month ago #277089 by jonus555
Thanks for the reply,
They are on long term fostercare.
The childern were only with us 8 months before our split and my wife has kept them on.
I have been told that I must provide a home for them (for 12 years) the house will be sold and my share will go as a charge on the new house that she will buy.
Do you know where I can get any information on my legal standing?

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9 years 1 month ago #277111 by rasher
You do not have parental responsibility for the children therefore its unlikely you can be forced to provide a home for them. You should seek advice from the fostering network www.fostering.net/

Do the fostering agency/authority you are approved for know that you have separated? If not you should speak to the supervising social worker for your family and explain the change in circumstances.

Do you have birth children of your own living within the home?

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9 years 1 month ago #277165 by Fiona
When splitting assets the priority is the welfare of \"children of the family.\" Children of the family means children who lived with the divorcing couple as though they were family and includes natural children of the relationship, step children (PR or not!) and adopted children but not foster children.

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9 years 1 month ago #277168 by rasher
Jonus

Although you may not be legally responsible for housing these children, I would just note that you clearly participated in a process to commit as a long term carer for them. I can appreciate things change but I wonder if there are ways you could manage the change in circumstances to support your wife in sustaining the childrens placement if she is willing to do so. There may be a negotiable position if you discuss it with the responsible authority. She will receive allowances for the children which may open up financial options.

If you are willing to explore, the best thing for the children is that their stability is protected, undoubtedly they have experienced many losses including you. To minimise further losses has to be considered if it can be managed.

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