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19 Jun 13 #397856 by skyliner
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Hi all

I''ve just had a second mediation meeting with my STBX. From the first meeting it looked promising as we were told to brainstorm and come up with some ideas around planners.

The problem is that my STBX doesn''t want shared residence and has come back with at the second meeting with diminishing suggestions which is worse to what was suggested before.

She wants the children''s feelings to be taken into account and has already got them to side with her (she has turned a little disagreement between myself and my son only because he wasn''t getting his way and said she had to intervene because it was "high conflict")i''m amazed by this superior drama to recalibrate my sons feelings towards me. She has used this drama incident to capture his feelings as she has mentioned it at the meeting just to make herself look good.

Anyway 3 options 1/the mediator can speak with the children 2/ myself and my STBX can speak to them 3/ it goes to court. They are the only options I have from my STBX as neither of us is compromising.

If I try to negotiate any less my STBX will try and reduce it even further.( i''m looking at sharing the week and alternate weekends.)

Any ideas what would be a better option out of the two excluding the court option?

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