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He won''t go to mediation.... So whats next??

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5 years 5 months ago #454691 by Starlett
Oh he knows exactly when he is off, just won''t share this information.

I also have to have a lump removed in the near future but once again, he says its not his responsibility to look after the children whilst I am hospitalised.

Oh well maybe one day he will see how much the children resent him for his actions.

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5 years 5 months ago #454693 by MrsMathsisfun
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When and how does he provide you with dates for his holiday contact or doesnt he have holiday contact?

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5 years 5 months ago #454695 by Starlett
In October/November he asked me when I am off for next August and asked if he could have a week 2 weeks later to take the children on holiday. To which I agreed.

Other than that he provides me with his rota on the 22nd of the month, for the following month. For February we are both off during the school holidays and the first I heard of it was on the 22nd Jan. So approx 3 weeks notice. Yet he has know my holiday dates since October.

Over the weekend I got a "I''m not available during this time to have the children in June as we are away" message

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5 years 5 months ago #454698 by MrsMathsisfun
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Personally I dont think you have any right to know when his leave is and giving you 3 months notice that he is unavailable isnt that unreasonable. (If it was a couple of days notice then that would be )

How much holiday contact does he have with the children? What are the arrangements. Does the contact pattern just continue?

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5 years 5 months ago #454699 by Starlett
There are no arrangements. Generally if I am off then I have days out planned and he has to fit in around that. He has never had more than a week without it being a holiday. He usually declines more than 3 days in a row.

there was a conversation in the court where he agreed to liase with me over the booking of annual leave.

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5 years 5 months ago #454700 by MrsMathsisfun
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So if he doesn''t have additional holiday contact other than 1 weeks in August and is happy to fit around your arrangements.

Why do you need to know when the rest of his annual leave is?

I would just make your arrangements and inform him children are unavailable if necessary.

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5 years 5 months ago #454705 by Starlett
I think you need to re-read my comments.

He doesn''t liase with me, books school holidays that I have already booked off to spend with the children. Then expects me to change my plans.

I will be going into hospital sooN to have a lump removed but who has the children while I am in hospital?

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