We had agreed 50-50 child care before. She works part time and can afford to take care of the kids 50% of the time easily. I will need help and child care due to work.
Can my STBX state that I cant use nanny/au pair as she says it will be unsettling them. I will not be able to take care of them all the time due to my work. Is this reasonable request at all. As result she now wants to revisit the 50-50 arrangement which seems unfair.
I don''t know about legally if she can object to this but does seem to be unfair that a nanny/au pair is looking after your children when they could be with their mother. Surely that defeats the whole object of you having them 50% if you can''t look after them during that time? Wouldn''t it be better to have them for less than half the time but look after them yourself. For example every other weekend (if you work mon-fri) and a night or two during the week. I''m sure they''d rather be with their mother than with an au pair if you have to work. You have to be able to commit to an amount of time that YOU can look after them and spend time with them not leave them with a third party. If it was me I wouldn''t be happy either. This is supposed to be an arrangement where both parents spend time with the children