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09 Apr 17 #490938 by Atina
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Bit of background:
At divorce nisi stage. 2 kids, 13 and 10 yrs old.married/cohabit 16 yrs by time of Nisi. Ex significantly older than me. Does not have income but very qualified, his claim is working on a electronic product design from home. Which is now translated into stay at home parent. The kids were always at full time childcare following maternity leave.
Assets: my : £330000; savings £15
No debts
Mortgage £100,000 left to pay off.
My incom £50,000 /year
The children are with me in a rental £1000 month. I pay for all our household bill, the kids expenses. They see him at least once a week, on their request, he has never made attempts at other arrangements.
My need for guidance is great as I have my first mediation meeting in a couple of weeks:
1. How do I prepare for it.
2. He has threatened to apply for interim financial support unless i pay £7000 immediately for remaining debt on his car and pay him £1000 /month to support his daily needs at the much bigger FMH. I xannot afford any of this unless i use up the cushion savings I hold. He has been using his own savings for the past 2years while contestingvthe divorce, and I believe funds may be running low. What are my choices here, I would like to avoid the court's we've already wasted at least £20,000 in th last year with him contesting the divorce. Yet, I feel I'm attending mediation knowing hewill not engage.

Apologies for the jumbled up notes but I'm feeling quite confused.
Any guidance will be deeply appreciated.

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