leaving matrimonial home

Hi

I had to move out of the marital home it was unbearable - leaving the three kids and my stbx. He can afford the bills I couldn't. Ive ended up staying with friends. But return on a regular basis and stay overnight in the marital home at times so he can't use it against me by saying Im never there.

I want the house sold and until the final hearing in August he' snot willing to do that.

If your stbx can afford the rent etc then fine but make sure she doesn't then apply for maintenance from you if she then cant afford it. Have it legally drawn up. My stbx was even trying to get mainenacne out of me!!! His earnings are 5 times mine!!!

Soemtimes you just have to go for your own sanity

Mollyx

I am in very similar circumstances. Currently undergoing mediation and stbx refuses to leave - extremely hostile and affecting children. Leaving the family home does not count against you if you can demonstrate that you are leaving to reduce the conflict for the sake of the children and continue to maintain regular contact, If I can give you one piece of advice from the heart is that time apart does help to diffuse the tension and gives everyone breathing space. Consider it!!

Sit tight, I have been since early Dcember 2007 when she told me she had made arrangements for me to move elsewhere. I refused and told her if she had issues then she should go. I was made redundant later in Dec and unable to pay the mortgage or bills, which I had paid for the previous 34yrs. She moved out 2nd June and has since returned to remove more of her extensive wardrobe, during texts, emails short discussions she insisted that I had to pay the mortgage. It culminated on Thusday night when she called me to confirm the agreement we agreed in early April was being drawn up by her solicitor. What about the mortgage I ask. "Oh it appears I have to pay that." she says Her little ploy failed miserably. You cannot be forcibly removed.

Staffa,

I take it no kids involved. The ultimate sanction is for her to stop paying mortgage if consequences fully understood. If that route is taken, then no option but to leave, albeit forcibly.