Yes I am the PWC. Or at least the majority of care. I claim CTC and CB but don''t claim any CM from her, we split costs instead.
Since children were born she has been main wage earner and worked more hours than me.Her hours are also far more unsociable than mine and would be far harder to arrange child care around. When we were together we both paid an amount proportional to our earnings into a joint account. Her contribution was much greater than mine.
Mesher type order, or agreement, is my ideal outcome.
Early redemption fee on mortgage could easily be circumnavigated by paying it off as several lump sum payments but is pretty negligable anyway.
I don''t think she is aware that any of her assets are marital assets. She has always been of the opinion that whats hers is hers and whats mine is mine. She seems to think that its a simple case of whatever equity is in the house has her initial deposit refunded to her then we split the rest 50/50! Not sure why she thinks that because she did take legal advice before leaving FMH.
Where do we stand if she inherits from her parents whilst we are living sperately but still married? Would that money form part of the pot?
Also pension wise is it just the years we were together that get divided? I had about 15 years pensionable service before we met and am still in the same scheme now?