going on for ever and getting no wear..

My partner wife left him 3 1/2 years ago ..i moved i 3 years ago, We have been raising his 2 boys ever since,,their mother has seen them twice.. paid 6 payments to csa and vanished aboard twice she has now had another baby.. my partner and his wife own two properties, he offered 1 to his wife when they separation and he agreed to keep he other that was worth more, and pay off the bills and mortgage since then we have had to pay off the bills and morg and tried to get a divorcee but we cant get her in one place for long enough . the properties where purchased with money my partner had prior to there marriage, and i have been the one working and paying the bills for the last 3 years

What would you like to know diva? How can we help?

as we live in Scotland we are just now really confused if there is anything we can do..my partner has been granted legal aid for the divorce and custody but his solicitor dose not want to proceed until the 2nd property can be sold..twice a offer has been got and taken to completion only for the estranged wife not to sign after she had agreed on the price ..the property is now off the market its been going on 40 months ..we are struggling to pay off the bills she ran up on joint credit cards. we do not have an address for her, she refuses to give one to either our solicitor, the estate agent, or children has no solicitor, the only way anyone can contact her is by e mail or mobile if switch on and is at this moment out of the country yet again has been for 6 weeks.

The law is different in Scotland. Where is your partner divorcing?

in Scotland where they lived, the properties are and he still lives with the children.