How does it end

I left the marital home after my wife and I agreed to divorce. We agreed on unreasonable behaviour but then she sacked her solicitor just before form E exchange and has just ignored every letter and step of the process since. She has been served the papers but refused to acknowledge it and has refused to contact the mediation people also.

I am having to get a ''demed service'' done but after getting a Nisi what will happen to my interest in the marital home? Who sorts that out if she carries on ignoring everything? How long will I be waiting? I need a deposit to buy a new place.

If she refuses to negotiate then you should apply to court for Ancillary Relief, as soon as you have Decree Nisi. She will ignore the court process at her peril.

Is that the same as mediation? I have to attend a mediation meeting firstly alone then with my wife but she has ignored all the letters and will continue to do so thus avoiding the legal costs of a solicitor.

Assuming she just ignores every step when or does she get ''bought to book'' and made to take part in this process which she agreed to and confirmed she agreed to in a letter from her former solicitors?

My legal fees aside, is this going to cost me £1000s more to get a ruling and will she endure any extra cost?

You do not "have" to attend a mediation session, alone or with your ex. What you do have to attend before a court application can be made, is a mediation assessment meeting. If your ex does not turn up to that then clearly mediation is not suitable, you can pick up your certificate and apply to court.

Nobody can tell you what she will do, or how much it will cost. It depends on many factors.

You''re right.

I went along and stated my case.

Although tough I said I would have no problem mediating in same room or separate so I''ve done my bit.

She continues to ignore the process though so we carry on.