Help - He keeps changing his mind!!!

Hi all, I am hoping that someone can help me....I originally agreed the financial settlement with my ex, but he keeps adding to the list, and I am reluctant to keep going thru solicitors as it wont change anything. He has a history of violence and aggression and has used threats and intimidation to get me to give him more than he should poten tially have. Can I just fill in a form E and get the courts to come to a fair decision. I don't want him to walk away with nothing, but I dont want to get screwed either....any suggestions?

hi,
I think that even if you agree the finance you both have to have it check by your respective solicitors.You have to have them in writing

Hi

My ex kept changing his mind and the only way in the end was through the legal route.

My barister on the day typed and printed the agreement so there could be no going back and handed into the court.

It is only just hitting him that he spent a fortune and came out no better off than when we had agreed between us the settlement. All he gained was enough to pay his legal fees. Which of course meant that I lost that amount plus my fees, which were far, far less than his.

He intimidated me, threatened me with his rotweiller of a solicitor and I stuck to my guns although many times I felt like giving up. I did read on here somewhere that a rotweiller solicitor just means an the person using him or her will need an open cheque book. My sol just kept telling me to stay calm and be patient and that the judge wouldn't be fooled by his lies. Luckily for me she was right.

Good luck
Tricia

hi Jenb,
my x has been aggressive,intimidating,verbally abusive etc etc.he said I would get nothing but I have held my ground and successively got my rightful share. you cannot let your x get everything and still keep demanding more, it is emotional blackmail.you have to realize that whatever you'll get as a settlement you will need to secure your future.
If the only reason you have not taken on a solicitor is because you're x frightens you then all the more reason to get a sol, someone there to protect your financial interests and can help protect you through court orders if needed.my sol has managed successfully to sort my x out without going to court.
what happens if your x decides eventually that he wants the lot? are you going to let that happen to you?
please take legal advice even if it's a free first half hour consultation.take care.

I have the same problem and for that reason I will have to use my solicitor and do it soon. My sbtx keeps pushing me to settle privately but I don't trust him - he wants to keep some monies out of the equation so that he gets substantially more. He has also been very intimidating. - Kind of reminds you why you wanted out.

I think also that if you don't have this validated by the court then any agreement you have made can be overturned in the future.

Look out for yourself and don't let him cheat you out of what's fair.

M