Open Offer or Without Prejudice

Thx for all your comments and statements about ''Offers''.
But what has been mentioned has raised some questions again. And in my ''''common'' way of asking again on what I have understood on above comments:

His Sols offer to me is marked ''Without Prejudice'' that I keep the MH and he retains his Pensionfund, he will pay Mortgage and me £50 per week till end Feb 2013.
Why is she ''''hiding'''' this offer. And it has not shocked me into thinking if I dont accept the next offer will be worse.

I dont even want to reply to this offer as its ridiculous. Transfering the MH with mortgage outstanding of £106,000 to me. Who is going to make the payments after Feb 2013. I cant do this.

Personally I feel that I have nothing to hide and ''''open'''' to settle our Financial Agreement that I feel is fair and reasonable and that I believe a Judge will as well.
I stay in MH for various reasons and Im ill and disabled and cant support myself,he works fulltime. Im claiming SM joint lives and pension sharing split 50/50.

Their offer has just proven to me that his Sols is misinformed and giving him the wrong advice. She has no clue of the facts and reality of our situation.

What motivated her to make this kind of offer.

btw NWTT I send you a PM about 6 weeks ago, no reply? I must have done this wrong as well

amefbi wrote:

Their offer has just proven to me that his Sols is misinformed and giving him the wrong advice. She has no clue of the facts and reality of our situation.

What motivated her to make this kind of offer.

The solicitor acts for their client. The solicitor made the offer on behalf of their client.

The offer is not indicative of the advice given. The solicitor may well have advised that you will get a whole heap more but if your husband instructs her to make a derisive offer on his behalf, that is what she must do.

Charles

Thx Charles this was my thoughts as well. I have been so frustrated because I know she has been misinformed by him.
Married 40yrs I know him better than he knows himself

He supplied her with minimum financial documents,3mths 1x bank acc and payslips, no house of pension valuations.
He told her Im a ''kept woman'' and to lazy to work.
He told her we dont need to disclose our finances as we have agreed that he keeps his pension and I keep the MH.
(No we did not agree!!)

If the correct information is available then his Sols will be in a better position to give informed and accurate advice about what stance the courts might take in our circumstances.

He has not informed her that Im disabled and in poor health for 6yrs and cannot support myself or work anymore and only have an income of DLA.

He has paid her thousands already and she has advised him to move to his own flat, transfer the elec/gas accounts to his new flat, cancelled my home phone/ sky cable, withdraw his money from the bankaccount the Direct debits has been paid and open a new bank account.

Now I received this letter that he will only be paying the mortgage and council tax and me £50per week till Feb 2013.
I called him last week asking if he could please give me a extra £60 I need this week. He called his Sols and she informed him. ''''No dont give her any money and If she has a problem with this tell her to call me''''.

Do I inform her or ignore them. This question has come to mind many times causing me sleepless nights.

I have decided to ignore again and will be filing Form A in next week or two.
If I can eat and sleep for more than 2hrs at night I might be able to think logical again.

Thx for being there when Im ranting again and speaking in ''different languages''

The solicitor is working in the dark. Her duty is to believe everything her client tells her or at the very least prefer his version of events of yours. If you present your case and the facts, it will be very difficult for her to ignore these and she will have to advise her client accordingly.

some people edit the information they give to their solicitor. For instance, your ex didn''t mention that you were disabled - he may think that this has no bearing on the situation and mentioning it will affect the advice he received. He would be half right. Once the solicitor has all of the facts, she will be able to give honest advice which your husband will not like.

So, your mission is to present all of the facts, warts and all, otherwise you will be going around in circles. Keep that mission in mind, allocate some time to documenting those facts and gathering the evidence required (where available).

The task at hand will appear to be insurmountable but once you begin, it will look much easier. Then you can begin to sleep and feel better about the future. Come back here for advice and look forward to the day that your husband realises what an asshat he has been.

Charles

Thx Charles.

This has been my exact thoughts and I only realised after reading your comment, why I havent given his Sols the facts and keep on typing letters and then deleting again.

Stbx attitude has been...he wont comply will ''dissapear'', wont go back to his Sols, believes he is above the law, nobody will force him to pay me anything, No Judge, no prison,he will stop his employment...and many more.

I am not scared at all and wont be pushed over by his reaction and madness. But its only a Judge and a court hearing that can finalise our financial agreement. Im not seeking revenge or trying to score but what is fair and reasonable.

So I was dissapointed when I read the info on filing Form A that I will have to supply them with all the copies.

I did not want to give his Sols the ''''ammunition'''' I have to present my case that Im confident with, but I dont have this option then.

I will do another post when I have questions on filing Form A, etc.

Thx again to all for your support and advice.

Am still here, and trying to help! Please take Charles'' advice here which is, as always, excellent, as befits his status! Yes, being LIP is a hard process, but least you have found this generous site to help you along the rocky path that follows. OK? I, too, know what it is like not to be able to sleep, eat, etc... but over that bit now. It''s all an emotional process.... Just trying to help, that''s all, with a bit of moral support.

Don''t worry about N not replying to your pm... I just spent an hour replying to someone else and just disappeared into the ehter...... But N is lovely lady, and sure if she had got it, she would have replied.

Ok, got to go now. Take care.

Hi Sadness,

I agree that NWTT is defo kind and lovely, and I send you a PM as well as I knew your where Filing form A..but its my mistake, cant find what I did and probably pressed the wrong key LOL.

I will PM you again at later stage and thx for your support and advice.

This weekend I''ll be busy preparing all my documents in my files for my appointment on Monday 17 at CAB, to discuss my other issues with ESA, DLA and some advice.

On 25 Sept GP appointment to ask for a ''''chill Pill''''.

Enjoy your on and off holiday