How to remove stbx from home

Tricky one.....
Stbx lost our family home a few years ago. Whilst he disappeared I was left to find a home for myself and two babies which I did. Property is in my name rental agreement.
Just wanted to see how others managed to have their stbx move out?
Whilst his behaviour ect is having a negative impact on me its more my children and the effect it is having on their welfare. Stbx treats the children v diffently favouring the sporty child more n more. Regrettably the negative comments between the two adults is now being heard by the children which is having an effect on them.
Any advice much appreciated. Tia

OOh, I'd be very interested in any responses on this too. My situation is different, but STBX seems to think that he is going to stay in the family home until he received a financial settlement, claims he can't afford to rent, despite me giving many solutions. I will be main carer as always for children, he is taking full advantage of situation, treating home like a hotel, doing as he pleases and, although he is not physically violent and behaves well around the children, whenever we discuss anything about the split he is aggressive, defensive, shouts, name calls and is irrational and threatening about the divorce. Basically making my life really difficult. How do we stand with this type of behaviour legally?

I can offer no advice regarding this, other than to say that the usual legal advice is not to move out until the financial settlement is agreed.

Please remember that the FMH is exactly that, and your s2bx has as much right to be there as you do.


LB

Yeah...I get the financial settlement bit, but some people are deliberately obstructive on this in order to delay things for months if not years. I guess it's really about doing the right thing for the sake of the children and being grown up about it all. Accepting the situation and giving/creating space. Funny how that often goes out the window completely!

Thanks LB

This sounds very similar to how stbx currently treats the house too.

sarahsc wrote:

Yeah...I get the financial settlement bit, but some people are deliberately obstructive on this in order to delay things for months if not years. I guess it's really about doing the right thing for the sake of the children and being grown up about it all. Accepting the situation and giving/creating space. Funny how that often goes out the window completely!

Thanks LB

Almost as funny as how "doing the right thing" and "for the sake of the children" are normally just another turn of phrase for "what I want to happen" in reality

Hi Purplemum,

If you are the only person on the "rent book" so to speak, you can tell him to leave at any time.

I don't have children & have recently been through the same thing with my ex, it dragged on for a while, i gave him written notice, also i went to the expense of a lawyer's letter mailed recorded delivery, so there was no deyning he hadn't recieved any notification.

I gave him one month's notice to quit & on that last particular day of the said date i told him the locks would be changed.

I contacted my local Police domestic abuse/violence team for advice in advance, the woman i spoke to was totally amazing, she gave me her Police business card so if i had any fear's of him or worries, i could contact her at any time for advice & support.

She made a small file about it, nothing major, but that it was on record if i needed Police back up to evict him they would come if i had to call them.

Luckily, i didn't need there help, amazingly, he finally took notice of my 4 years of begging him to leave, which he did......I've never looked back, March 2017 was the best month of my life No regrets. stay strong.

If like me, you don't want to "band" your personal info around, sometimes it is worth speaking to the homeowner or landlord in advance to out them in the picture, after all, they don't want damage to their property.

Best of luck D xx