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Help with next step? Solicitor or apply to court?

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10 months 2 weeks ago #508439 by blacktulip
I don’t know if anyone can help /advise on the divorce procedure.

I saw a solicitor last year and she has set out a “fixed divorce” quote. I understand the basics of what is included. But the price doesn’t include any billed time for sorting out the details and bearing in mind my husband is refusing to accept I want a divorce I fear legal fees may soar.

I have tried mediation, but my husband refused to attend. I have since received the signed c100 form from the mediator to say that I attended alone. They have offered sent me instructions on how to complete the Court paperwork and have offered me an appointment to assist completing this.

So do I go it alone and complete the Court paperwork, with the assistance of the mediation lady?

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Do I just instruct the solicitor ?

Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you.

We have 2 children. We have a family home in joint names, no mortgage. I have investments and could potentially buy my husband out of the house to keep the family home for myself and my daughters.

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10 months 2 weeks ago #508443 by Cheesestring
Replied by Cheesestring on topic Re:Help with next step? Solicitor or apply to court?
You seem like you know what to do with court paperwork. If I was you I'd use the help of the mediator and get the ball rolling. Solicitors are expensive as they charge by the hour.

I was litigant in person initially and then got a direct access barrister for fdr and final hearing. Best decision I made and have no regrets because I was dealing with a narcissist.

Also call this website, you will get plenty of support and advice from this forum too. Good luck!

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10 months 2 weeks ago #508500 by jenson
I agree you are best avoiding a solicitor, I had to use one as mine was rather complex and in the end it turned out, better than it could have been. I think you should start the process with the help of the mediator.

I would hope your stbx will start seeing sense when they realise this could turn out costly and time consuming and reach some sort of settlement, usually in these things one has to follow a path and hope that things work out which they can.

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10 months 2 weeks ago #508521 by blacktulip
Thank you for your advice.

I’ve spoken on the phon3 to wikivorce which was a great help too

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10 months 2 weeks ago #508522 by jenson
I am glad you did, the service is rather amazing for me it was a god send in my early days or the divorce process.

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10 months 1 week ago #508536 by blacktulip
Thank you.
I’m fairly certain I’m going to go down the route with the help of a mediator and this site then see what happens.

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7 months 1 week ago #510023 by SEN
Just came across this thread and wondered how you got on as I am in a very similar position. Thanks!

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