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When is best for me to fill in paperwork

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3 months 1 week ago #511991 by Dubber
I split from my wife 12 months ago, and have set up on my own, there's been no contact with her from me or vice versa.

I am wondering when is the best time for me to start with the paperwork, her last words were that she was gonna start asap but I've heard nothing and would like to get this moved on.

But im just wondering if there is a best time to start as i would like to think she wants it over and done with but my concern is that she may now look to drag the situation on with the intent of making it awkward for me.

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3 months 1 week ago #512001 by rubytuesday
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IF you think she's likley to take her time in initialing the petition then delaying over applying for the Nisi, and then the Absolute; then it may be better for you to initiate the divorce and be the petitioner.

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3 months 4 days ago #512036 by Dubber
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My concern is also if I petition the divorce she may then drag it out to make it more of a cost to me and be awkward

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3 months 4 days ago #512045 by rubytuesday
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It's true that she can delay the divorce - but only up to a point. If you let her be the petitioner she can delay it much longer :s

It's much better if you petition then you are in control of the timings of the divorce. As you've only been separated for 12 months, you will need to use behaviour in the petition - and it's possible to progress a divorce on that ground even without the respondents involvement.

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