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Domestic violence

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3 months 1 day ago #512071 by Kirstyk
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I was just wondering does anyone have any experience of using an App to track DM. I am not currently divorcing, yet, but a friend has suggested that I might be experiencing it, not physically, more emotionally and it's hard to come to terms with it and be sure if I really am. I have been recommended to use an App called Preserved because I can apparently share it with a lawyer or counsellor.

Any experience or advice?

No judgment please that is not what I am looking for.

Thank you

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3 months 19 hours ago #512075 by Noetica
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I don't have experience of the app you mention, but certainly keeping a diary of when you feel uncomfortable is very useful.

I didn't realise I was in a controlling relationship till I read an article on a dog forum of all places. There was a link to a checklist, and I ticked 75%. One or two is enough, quite honestly! There's quite a good one here

www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/friendsh...rtner-is-controlling

Its very difficult to come to terms with the idea that you might be the victim of abuse. It certainly didn't sit well with my self image. I'm an intelligent, educated woman! But if you are beginning to think its happening, it probably is. You just need to learn to recognise it - and then what you will do about it.

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2 months 3 weeks ago #512119 by ignatz
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Thank you for the link to 'the 20 signs'.

I'm an intelligent, educated man! It took me years to realise that that I was being abused. It was the case that only domestic violence if actually carried out that seemed to be recognised; domestic abuse without physical violence has only been taken seriously for the last 5 years or so.

I wish I had had recording devices that worked when it was all going on. I recommend take AND secure lots of records. Police may have to deal with counter-allegations and hard evidence might be essential.

Good luck. Stay safe. (Possibly ...run for the hills!)

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