Day 1 - Help!

Good morning everyone. I have used Wikivorce a couple of times over the last 12 years very successfully, an incredible resource supported by super folks which helped me incredibly well in past both for me and a daughter in her divorce.

Unfortunately I have need to guide another daughter through the same exercise and I have to confess, the data and knowledge harvested those previous times has faded some and indeed my previous posts and knowledge base stored on Wikivorce also seem to have disappeared. So essentially I'm at day 1 with only a redsidual knowledge.

If anyone has time to suggest some simple process reading matter and easy reading to provide someone new to the process some framework and fact control, that would be hugely useful.

Daughter No.3 is bright enough, rational enough, but the husband is an alpha male type and making comments to her that 'she cannot survive on her own' and suchlike. Nothing you will not have not seen many times but of course very new and surprising to her .... not to mention a bit shocking.

So I am trying to encourage a way forward of debate, Relate and homework and preparation. And of course the question .... is there any potential to save the relationship. At this point I would realistically say the answer to that is no.

So I need to find access to 'easy to digest' materials that she can read and learn from without overwhelming her. And in parallel, I need to do some deeper reading and preparation in case of the worst outcome. Any links, PDF's, videos or suchlike would be great to hear about to start our learning process. The good news being that she is still at home, there is communication, children are not at any significant risk and time is on her side.

There are two children involved both under the age of 3. They both have careers and a mortgaged property with some amount of capital in. There is no significant amount of debt bar a car PCP which can be terminated at cost. She is a UK born native, he has UK perminent residency and a UK passport but also holds another passport from country of origin. There is a very slight fear of return to home with children but we suspect this is just muted in argument and that any real risk is limited. This week she will contact Relate to start efforts to see if anything can be saved. The husband is resistive to this but will likely comply.

Not to overhelm the post with too much detail ... we are at a very early stage. But as I say, links to easy to read data that take the fear out of the situation would be very welcome and appreciated. If we can get some baseline learning in place early, then hopefully we can minimise impact on all parties and get some way forward.

Many thanks in advance