Hello all, Im new to this site and have waited a couple of weeks watching reading what this site is about.
Whilst I have quite a few queries this query surrounds my soon 2bx We have thre wonderfully children 2boys one girl, when she split and left home to set up home else where, the older two children boy 15yo and girl 14yo wanted to stay with me in the
marital home the and still visit their mum one day every 2 weeks or so. the youngest boy 5yo stays with their mum but vists me on the weekend.
Basically when she left she returned to collect things that were hers, things possessions that 'she paid for' like the bed, clothes- hers and the youngest child, washer ,drier fridge jewelry pictures, wall paper- that had not been pit up, I agreed as she was starting a new life away from me and her children,with all this and there were no problems from my side even though she would still protest that she has a right to these items.
This went on for about a month her comming over really ignoring me as she collected her stuff when she can. She has resold some items to me for the kids sake like an old washer and fridge which i am using. She now has finished moving stuff i have the bare essentials and the marital home to ourselves at the moment.
What I have done is now changed the locks to the ex marital home 2months ago after she had taken her things, she only discovered that the locks had been done this week of course she wernt happy as she called me at work say she has a right to come and go as the home was the marital home, even though she wont tell me where she lives and dont want me round there, i disagreed she says she will tell her lawyer.
Am I ok in doing this, I just want closure and to know that when I am at work my s2bx wont take something out of the house because she thinks its hers and I will not have any recourse has I 'dont know where she lives' I do know as my children have told me but thats not the issue.
She has been claiming Child Bens for the two I have with me and I did not think that was fair so I applied, Benefits people want to take it from her for the ones living with me. She exploded, when she got a phone call, now she wants me out of the marital home(and sell) and if the two children that are with me dont go with her she will apply to put them in care. As you can imagine its causing much axiety amonst all three of use.
Now I do understand how she feels, it seems after she left us It looks like I have taken her kids her house and now want money off her to boot, she is besides herself.
Can she get out kids into care? as both have said to me- because of their mums rash behavoure AND the 'friends' she now goes with, that the dont want to live with their mum but dont mind visiting.
We need to move on.
Percy -It will get better in time :>)
