Loss of a loyal friend

Have just had to have one of my 17 year old cats put down. Those of you who don't have pets probably won't understand but I am devestated.

I had had her since she was 8 weeks old and she gave me unconditional love and loyalty (unlike stbx and ex BF)

When I got up this morning her breathing was loud and laboured and I knew what the outcome was going to be. Took her to the vets first thing and they put her down.

Haven't stopped crying since 6.15 this morning. Hoping to be all cried out before my daughter comes home and I have to tell her.

Don't know if I am just crying for the cat or it has been a catalyst for what's happened over the last month. Was definitely not this upset when I found out about stbx and exBF!

Another depressing thought is that I had my cat longer that I had my mum. She died when I was just 15. God I'm morbid at the moment.

I know it was the right thing to do, but it doesn't help me feeling so wretched. Needless to say not in work today.

Sorry to go on but I just had to tell someone.

(((((Ali))))) Losing a friend like that ... and cats are friends .. is bound to bring up a lot of sad stuff for you .. especially now.

Look after yourself ..

Hadenoughnow

Best wishes to you.

Animals do become such good comforters when you're in distress. They seem to know when you're down and come and give you that physical comfort you need without asking anything in return other than a bowl of food.

My cats made my divorce bearable by their warmth, the noise of their purring (silence is awful when you're upset) and allowing themselves to be touched by someone desperate for contact with a warm, breathing, living creature.

Hugs to you.

Hi Alipat,

I feel for you, I know what it's like to loose a dear pet, but remember she had a good long life and wont have to suffer any pain.
I've got dogs and cats, one of my dogs is elderly and I know we don't have that long, I'm dreading the day I loose her or have to make that decision
Take things easy and don't be afraid or ashamed to cry.

Jenny
xxx

Hi Ali

I feel for you - I lost my 16yo cat this summer, and have to admit to being devasted. I still miss him now, but am comforted by the memories we have of him - including things like his rather strong breath, the way he would wake me up at 3am for no reason, as well as the comfort i got from him during a very unhappy marriage.

Hold on to the good thoughts and memories - pets are part of our families, and thier passing is often hard.

Take Care
Ruby x

Hi Ali,

Firstly your not daft or anything like that animals are part of the family. I lost a tortoise then my dog who s2bx gave me 15yrs ago and to top it off I had to give my dog the tablets knowing he would go to sleep and not wake up and then 4/5 weeks later had to have my cat put down. We had him for 16 yrs. Boy did I think my world was crumbling around me.

At least we have the memories and photos and possibly the videos!

Don't be ashamed ok ((((((((Ali)))))))

Take care

Cinders x

Ps. I got a sympathy card a few days later off the vet, thought that was so sweet and its still up 7 weeks on!

So sorry to hear this. I know what you must be going through, and the fact that some people do not see this as a huge loss and genuine bereavement does not help imo. We lost our little dog a few years ago and I was absolutley devastated. I didn't even leave the house for a fortnight, never mind work, and now have her name tattooed on my shoulder, as a chinese symbol.

You know that you did the right thing, but that doesn't make it any easier

Thinking of you.