Positive Thoughts?

Been having a few "off" days of late, and last time I had some of these days, promised myself that I would concentrate on the positive things in my life. (helps keep me focused on whats good, and not bad, in my life)

Some of these are - My children, being loved and loving in return, the thought of a new life after all this is over, my friends, knowing that I am a decent person, laughing, having a roof over my head and being a size 10 again.

would be interested to know what others think of when they are trying to beat the "off" days.

ruby

Hey Ruby

I love the sun on orange leaves. (sounds like a 1970's song but true)

walking and laughing with the kids in the park today - building homes for hedgehogs to hibernate in (including flatscreen tvs showing hedgehog Simpsons and comfy sofas...)

Feeling like I am my own person and do not have to answer to anyone/worry about their responses.

That Friday feeling knowing that it wi;ll last all weekend unless I choose it ot be (ie not him ruining a nice dinner again)

The loss of weight I agree Ruby was the added bonus for us gals in strife.

good idea for a thread.

PS another one - my kids are going away for 2 nights with ex tomorrow, and they have what they call their invisible love thread with me so they can pull on it anytime they want and know I am sending them a hug! thats kinda good too

Jollyrocket wrote:
they call their invisible love thread with me

I love that expression Jollyrocket.

I find that once you are on a roll with the positive thoughts, things do tend to improve. If you are miserable things really do appear to get worse.

Positive thoughts are all about making different choices.
Ones that perhaps you would not normally take, we all have the ability to make things better. Just sometimes when we at our lowest, we perhaps make the wrong choices.

Who knows
zara

When I am low I count my blessings and think of those less fortunate than me. I also turn round all the bad negative things that have happned to me. It is hard being positive. It requires more work to think this way. We are conditioned to "woe is me" and it dont help.

Over my door is a sign that says "You will never survive". This was a negative thing said to me by my ex. I printed it in large print and stuck it up above the door.

Every day that I do survive proves her wrong. The negative in context word in this sentance is "never". However its not true and was a pure gift for me. She will never understand how much that sentance means to me. It is my mantra that drives me through the day. This is an example of a negative thing thats positive. One day I will re-write that sentance to "you will thrive" C

My ex is due to put in the application for Absolute today; so last night I went to see Burt Bacherach in London... one of his guests (Jamie Cullum) was just cherries on top!

Burts music has been the soundtrack to all of my life.... If I’d have died last night..... I’d have died happy! This gig was certainly one of lifes’ moments and the e-bay ticket search was well worth it!

I enjoyed reliving all those sixties classics (Burt did an acoustic version of Alfie; very mellow; didn’t attempt to big-it-up with a BBC orchestra crescendo .... didn’t get one of the big diva girls to join him, just him and the keys; absolute magic!)

Jamie Cullum did an understated 'Make it easy on yourself' (lyrics include "breaking up - is so very hard to do")...

Into the seventies and eighties songs that set the background to my earlier courtships, first dances etc (!) ... I no longer recall which ones – went with which heartbreak (!)

Although there is certainly Always something there to remind me.... I've long forgotten what it was that it reminded me of!?

...... into the nineties: with songs I raised my kid to: (“on the day that you were born the angels got together....”).... into the present day with new material.

All this on the eve of my divorce.... So now Burt has provided yet more soundtrack to my life.... hopefully in another few years – I’ll forget who that divorce was to.... and it’ll be just one more soundtrack-to-my-life that Burt provided!

There was a moment during the Sax solo of “this guys in love with you” that opened the flood gates.... friend (male) saw my tears streaming down my face and asked if I was OK? ..... and there was this realisation watching an energetic 80 yr-old creative genius perform a lifetime of his work that made me realise what else there is my life other than this divorce pain..... and put things in to perspective.

Burt stood out front and thanked us all for coming. After the clapping subsided, I called out (from the front row) “Thank YOU!!! You are my life”!!!!!...... and he acknowledged me.... and on BBC2 last night, there was a shot of Burt playing the piano, and through the gap was a lady in a pink pashmina... and that was me !!! (Mate is sending the DVD)

...and ending the show... the cameras panned the front as we all sang along to (appropriately!) “Raindrops keep falling on my head”.... and in that crowd was a happy, singing ... ME!

Spirits well lifted!

Marshy,
I agree with you.
had a letter from bank , could not process a cheque for £600.00 that I gave to the solicitor ,not enough fund.Apparently our bank manager(business) rang me and was going to pass it, for my luck I did not answer the phone so knowing what is happening between me and x2b he wrote to me and even mentioned that this will cost me £25.00(which he did not charge).
I found this as a big opportunity.
I phoned solicitor to return the cheque but unfortunately they had already represented it to the bank ,so I put a stop on it at a cost of £10.00(by then there was money for it to have gone through).
I want the cheque back.
I am going back to court on 5th november for none payment of maintenance pending suit so this cheque(as judge thought it very important that I can afford the legal help x2b is getting), with all my final utiliy demands(on purpose) should be to my advantage in court.
the best £10.00 I have ever spent.
Hey by the way Marsh r u skiving???

Hi Sera

(((((hugs)))))))

how are you feeling today???????

Hope you have found something to concentrate on to take away the thoughts of 23rd October !!!!!!

So this is it then?? Sad, but final. Now you can really move on and grasp all you need to plan the future, what you are going to do for the rest of your life.

Take a deep breath, and try to relax, you did all you could, no-one could have tried more.

My thoughts are with you, if I could, I would give you a huge hug.

It must be a sad day for you.

(((((((hugs)))))))

lots of love
zara