Turning Point

I have been thinking for a while now about leaving the Wiki community and have now decided to do just that (well of a sort). I have reached a crossroads on the long road that is divorce.

I think that Wiki is now holding me back from progressing rather than helping me. Don't get me wrong Wiki has helped me loads and I am truly grateful for the help that I have received over the last 10 month's but now I need to start my life again, a new life without divorce, it's time to put the last year behind me and start moving forwards on my own.

I have made some good friends on here, friends that were here for me when I was down and helped me so much to get to where I am now.

I am just starting out in a new relationship with a lovely lady, a lady that gives me butterflies (even when she just texts) and I haven't had that feeling for years and years. It's hard going into a new relationship as it's hard to trust again but it's time to progress, to work on and build the new relationship and more importantly the new me !

I need to also say the following which some may not like but I feel that I should and besides I have never been known to hold back so why start now?.

For some Wiki is a lifeline, a place where help is at hand 24 x7 but for others it's a habit thing, almost an addiction. And that was what was happening to me. I needed to take a long look at what I was getting out of it and also putting in. I can't continue to help and comment as by doing that I stay static on my own road to recovery. I think some others may also need to look at where they are and also what they are offering now. Is it time you moved on?

What have I learnt during the divorce process over the last year,

That divorce is not fair and the law needs looking at and the sooner the better

Lies hurt more than actions

There is life after divorce

There are good honest people on Wiki but also a few who are out for what they can get (the good one's out number the bad ones though)

That I'm a very bad judge of character


And finally, that whatever life throws at me I am a much stronger person than I was before, my life has and will continue to change for the better, I believe I am a better man and human being now. A man with goal's and personal ambitions and one day I will meet the right person, and when I do, I know I will have so much love and respect to give them.

To everyone that has helped me THANK YOU. You know who you are.

Take care and goodbye (for now?)

Phoenix1

I really wish you look in your new venture! Although I have just joined the site so instead of having butterflies in my stomach I have that horrible feeling!

But I do take on board everything you have said and it's great you have come out the other end, take care and good luck!

Hi P1. I remember when you 1st came to wicki. Look at you now? I have left and come back a few times. I go thru phases of giving and not being able to. Perhaps this is a not being able to phase for you? Time will tell. Come back if you want to. Its your life however.

For some people giving helps. Thats why I am here. Its not a habit for me. I dont work here evenings or weekends now. But when I have the time I like to give support and abuse in equal measure

I get something from it. Thats why I am here. I have also made a lot of mates on this site and I like to go into chat and have a natter. Perhaps you will be back.

Anyway mate. All the best. Hope it works out for you and I realy hope you dont come back as a customer. Best ones, Chris.