Friends - don't turn them away

Three years ago, I lost a very close and dear friend of mine at the age of 43yr. She went to sleep and never woke again. She left behind her husband and two children (17yr & 13yrs) without being able to say goodbye. It would have been her 47th Birthday last month.

It made me stop and think.

Hey, life is too short & precious to always be angry, with either yourself or with someone else. To be angry with those who think they know best, those who want to be there for you but you won't let them, because you're far to proud to open up and allow them into your private space.

Today I have gone and lost another very good friend.


I've only got myself to blame really, because I didn't stand up to someone who put a wedge between us! I've been stupid, foolish and silly. A bldy idot in fact. In times like this, when our backs are pressed firmly against the wall, these friends are hard to find. They're out there, believe me, but are not openly displaying themselves for all to see. They do not have a sign over their head with a blue flashing light saying 'TRUSTED FRIEND HERE' it's not that simple.

To gain a friendship in these cruel and hard times is not an easy task to achieve. The spite and hatred that exists all around one makes it hard to let them know you mean them no harm, and would never let them down and always be there no matter what happened.

I made the mistake of letting my friend down, slamming the door in their face, just when they needed me most and for that I am full of deep regret. I cannot bring the friendship back as they have now moved away and so I will have no more contact with them, unless of course they see it in their heart to get in touch. So I will be unable to make amends of any kind.

I wanted to pass this on as a wanring to all those who feel in the same position as I do now.

An absolute first class crass numpty

I would give it a month and make contact. True friends never realy go away and will always back you up no matter what. My freinds saw things that I couldnt. I should have listened to them. Its good to have freinds on the outside of a relationship. They ballance things. Everyone needs friends. Let the dust settle and try and contact them. C

Hi
((((SUE)))))
most of us are guilty of this.Then pride stops you getting in touch.
When I am in trouble I tend to withdraw into my shell and not allow anyone near me .Recently I have found how good some of them have been even with me ignoring them ,I still get the daily phone call,knowing that the day they hear my voice means I am on the mend. I will have to do a lot of appologising.
I agree with you life is too short and precious to be pigheaded.
take care

((((((((Sue))))))))))))

Marshy and Marriaa have offered good advice and I agree. Let things settle and then make contact, I expect your friend is feeling just as hurt and its true...a true friend will always be a friend.

Take care and see you in chat later

Saffy xxx

i hope you and your friend have made up. like you say live is too short - if you haven't already, txt her now - make up!
Carrie x

Sue

Read your post for the first time this evening and wanted to say a big big thank you to you.

I've just texted a dear friend of mine who I've neglected recently whilst I've been too busy 'sitting in a corner licking my wounds'.

I really hope it's not too late for you and your friend. True friends are hard to come by and like everyone else on Wiki my friends have been the ones who've kept me from going under.

Thank you again, take care

Roo x

Hi

Its works the other way too. I always did my best and spent a considerable time helping friends and family out.
I tried my best to always be there for them all, but a few years ago, when I needed a true friend, they were not there for me. Friends, that ended up as family, just turned their backs on me. One of them, I loaned £10,000 to help buy a house, took her on holiday, refurbished her home for her, the list is endless. The only time, I ever really needed a bed to sleep in, she never offered.

I now believe, you have friends that are there for you when it suits them, but run a mile when you need their help.

I now have crossed them from my list of 'real friends'.

I have moved on with my life, they have not moved with me, because they obviously dont need money!!!

Your friends are the ones that will always be there.

You have to put a £sign in front of some of them.

zara

I will do anything for anyone, but that is the fault of being at true friend.

zara